My future wants...

I'd love to change my first name from "Joel" to "Jolene" and my middle name from "Allen" to "Jole", I want to be in a honest, loyal, REAL and no player/user relationship with a transgender and cisgender woman around the ages of 18-30s ages in South Knoxville,TN,USA where I live. I want to change my appearance on how I look and lose some weight and stop my seizures so i can go back ta having a job.