the trouble of frizzy curly hair

Most people see curly hair and think that the person is lucky or special, before I had curly hair that's what I thought too. But in reality, its a struggle. I grew up with straight/slightly wavy hair. For some reason when I turned 12 my hair became curly-for reference 3b hair type- it also became incredebly frizzy. It may have come this way because I have trichotillomania-a hair pulling disorder- and it was especially bad during 5th-6th grade. my hair is incredebly thick and having less on my skelp meant my curls did not bunch as well as they should. it really sucks and sometimes all i want is to have my old hair back. A huge trouble i have is sleeping with my crazy hair. it gets absolutly hideous during the night, the thing that will help it would be a bonet but i dont want to cultural appropriate. Im latina but i still dont want to offend anyone. What do yall thinkk -_-