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22.04.22 ❤︎₊˚⋆ my favorite troubled teen girl movies & how they help me cope


've been wondering if i should post this or not because it's not easy for me to open up about these things and there's a lot of venting here but writing this was very therapeutic to me and i wanted to make my blog kind of like a diary i write whenever i feel inspired to so hopefully if someone reads this it'll be helpful to u as well (btw sorry if there are any grammar errors or if theres a lot of repetition etc this is a pretty casual post just pretend we're in the 2000s)

i've struggled with numbness and dissociation for most of my teen years, but especially during my late teens in the pandemic. i think the time i struggled with it the most was in 2021 when it felt like everyone else's life was going back to normal except for mine and i really struggled with feeling like i was being left behind by the world. i feel like my mind's immediate reaction to "negative" feelings is to go on autopilot which causes me to dissociate a lot. i mean i'm already a pisces which means stereotipically my memory sucks but this makes it all worse lol u r probably wondering where the movies come in......... sorry i guess i just needed to vent a bit.

well! like i said, my memory sucks, plus all the numbness and dissociation and all that, which makes 2020 and 2021 a huge blur for me. but there is something i remember dearly from these years, which is watching/rewatching troubled teen girl movies, especially from the 2000s!!!! now, don't get me wrong, i know a lot of people romanticize these types of movies, especially after thirteen blew up on tiktok, but that's really not the case. these movies help me specifically for the very reason that they're sad, heartbreaking even.

because my brain tends to go on autopilot whenever it detects me feeling "negative" emotions (and i keep putting negative in quotation marks because i don't believe any emotions are negative, we as humans are meant to experience them all) i find myself struggling with feeling sadness, which honestly is an important emotion to the healing process. when i allow myself to be sad i feel like i can move on easier, but the dissociation and numbness really interrupt that. which is where the movies come in! i feel like it's a lot easier for me to connect to other people's feelings than mine so these types of movies really help me be sad and cry and let it all out so i can proceed with my healing

white oleander (2002) - directed by peter kosminsky


(tw: suicide, abusive mother, pedophilia)
it follows astrid, who has her mother, a very self-centered woman, sent to jail for murdering her boyfriend when her daughter is only fifteen. astrid goes back and forth between foster homes and foster parents, and whenever u think her life is finally going well, things change drastically.

this movie is probably my favorite troubled teen girl movie. i watched it at a time i really needed something like this..... astrid's mother made me so fucking angry, and the suicide scene really impacted me because i truly was not expecting it. overall i love the acting in this movie, and there are some beautiful shots, like the scene when astrid and her mom are at the rooftop looking at the los angeles view. i really like the ending as well, i think the way astrid chooses to heal is so cool and interesting. also! alison lohman to me is the queen of troubled teen movies and she will show up on this list again!

lilya 4-ever (2003) - directed by lukas moodysson


(tw: suicide, abusive mother, pedophilia, minor prostitution, rape, drug abuse, sex trafficking)
lilya, or lilja, is abandoned by her mother who goes away to the united states while the teen girl stays somewhere in the former soviet union. she is forced by her aunt, who is just as neglective as her mom, to move to an old, run down apartment, and live a life of poverty with her best friend, volodya, who is also neglected by his parents. i won't go into a lot of details to not spoil the movie, but things go downhill even more from here.

just thinking about this movie makes me want to cry. after i finished watching it i really had to take like an hour to absorb everything and cry over it. it truly is so so heartbreaking. it's just tragedy after tragedy after tragedy, and things never get better for lilya. the ending is so fucking sad. on another note, i really love the cinematography of this movie, and there is this dreamcore vibe towards the end that i really love!!!! it's a really heavy movie but it's totally worth watching if this is something u can take. also the soundtrack is really good too!!! thank u to my bffie who is also a troubled girl movies enthusiast for recommending it to me

christiane f (1981) - directed by uli edel


(tw: overdose, pedophilia, minor prostitution, drug abuse)
this movie is a true story of a german 13 year old girl in the 70s who is tired of her life and starts going to a nightclub with her school friend. there, she meets a boy, detlev, who she falls in love with. the aftermath of this relationship is a life of drug abuse, prostitution, and seeing young kids die to drugs.

this is a really heavy movie as well, and something about it just made me feel so immersed, so it made me cry a lot. i would say it has similar vibes to lilya 4-ever, although the story is not so similar. the scene of christiane going through a withdrawal is so fucking unsettling it made me feel sick. it truly is so heartbreaking that a person, and a child at that, had to go through all the things she went through. and i hate her relationship with detlev for obvious reasons. but i do feel bad for him because he is also just a kid living a life like that. once again, really amazing cinematography. there are so many memorable scenes in this movie to me, such as when she's hanging out with detlev and other teens on the rooftop of a building in the middle of the city, and the david bowie concert, which actually has david bowie's little cameo!

speak (2004) - directed by jessica sharzer


(tw: rape)
melinda is raped at a party by an older student when she is only 13, and the event changes her life completely. immersed in a depressive state after the occuring, she finds herself with no friends, or at least no true friends, living antisocially throughout her freshman year of high school. she decides to speak very little as a form of expressing her feelings, only significantly speaking when she talks to an art teacher who helps her begin her healing process.

first let me begin by saying kristen stewart is a great actress!!!! i enjoyed all the movies she's been in that i've seen, especially panic room and spencer. this movie is probably the most popular troubled teen girl movie after thirteen, and i really think it deserves it. i really could relate to the feeling of numbness melinda portrays throughout the movie, and i think it was very well expressed. there's almost this feeling of dissociation throughout the movie and the cinematography really helped with that as well. speaking of which, i love the cinematography of this movie. i love the color composition as well. it's just a very emotional yet numbing movie and i loved the experience of watching it.

sharing the secret (2000) - directed by katt shea


(tw: eating disorders)
on the outside, beth seems to have a pretty normal teenage life. she is popular in school, has loving parents, does well academically, and is good at ballet. however, her reality is not as it seems. beth struggles with living up to all these expectations, especially while having to deal with her parents' divorce, and turns to eating disorders as a way to feel in control of her life.

here we have miss alison lohan the queen of troubled teen girl movies again!!!!! i think this movie does a good job showing how eating disorders can affect someone's life, and how situations in life can lead to eating disorders. there were some very impactful moments as well, such as when her mom sees her purging, that really made me cry. i was also impacted by when beth yells "it's not about u. why can't anything be about me" at her mom when talking about her eating disorders. the amount of scenes where she purges feel a bit much though. overall i just really love alison's acting, and there are some pretty great scenes cinematography wise, particularly there is this one scene where beth is at a park surrounded by flowers and i think it is so beautiful. i also love the outfits she wears throughout the movie

aaaaaaand....... last but not least!!!!

water lilies (2007) - directed by celine sciamma


(tw: pedophilia)
after attending a school synchronised swimming competition in which her best friend participates, a 15 year old french girl named marie becomes interested in another girl from the more advanced team, floriane, who has the reputation of being a slut by the other girls. marie and floriane then begin a friendship that slowly and at times a bit unsurely develops into something else. as the movie progresses, we can see the two, and also marie's best friend anne, explore their sexualities as teenage girls.

this movie is definitely not as depressing as the other ones, i don't particularly remember crying at any scene, i watched it kind of a long time ago though so it's a bit hard for me to remember lol, but i think it still fits in the troubled teen girl movie category and is worth mentioning. i definitely think it is worth watching if u r also sapphic hehe i could relate to marie at times and i think the way her feelings for floriane are portrayed is very pure and beautiful. i also love love love the cinematography, there are some very pretty shots in this movie, i felt particularly in awe by the scene when marie and anne are at the indoors swimming pool at night. my only critic to this movie is that the nsfw scenes feel very unnecessary, especially because the actresses were minors.



well thank u so much for reading until here!!! i'm sorry for all the rambling and dumping at the beginning i hope it wasn't too much...... let me know if u end up watching any of these movies and liking them, or if u already seen them and enjoyed them as well also let me know if u would like me to recommend more movies, i really love watching movies as a hobby so i could definitely make more blog posts like this hehe anywayssssss take care everyone byebye


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ahhh i love waterlillies.


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me too :-)

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