there, i said it
spacehey has a really big exclusionist problem
i don't feel like being active on a site where half the userbase is gonna violently harass me because they're too lazy to learn some actual queer history and unpack the TERF bullshit they've been taught
i honestly hardly add anyone who friends me because most people who add me are these dumbass kids who give me the sorta vibes that they're an edgy 14 year old who thinks being a mean lesbian is cool and bullying mspec gays is a healthy and productive thing to do that will create queer unity in some way
just about everyone who's joined pUwUlsewave from the links we've shared on spacehey has been nothing but trouble for the server as it turns out they didn't bother reading the fucking "we're inclusive of all good faith identities" rule and then it turns out they think i shouldn't exist for like 10 different reasons and then they leave
i really don't feel like being active here because interacting with other users is literally *always* a gamble on whether they'll be chill with me or whether they'll cuss me out because they think their way of life is better than mine
it's extremely sad to me that these terminally online kids who have never attended a pride march or a queer hangout in their whole life have all flocked to spacehey because "ooh UwU edgy emo scene nostalgia cool" and they're bringing all their prescriptivist and destructive bullshit with them
i don't wanna hang out with people who preach this historical denialism like it's the only character trait they were given in life, but trying to avoid them here is like walking in a goddamn minefield.