i am currently in a kind of tough situation- i have lots of trauma and diagnosed C-PTSD when it comes to my mom's boyfriends and i am a minor that still lives with my mom. she recently got a new boyfriend that i don't like for several good reasons (a few examples: says the n-word and he's white, says f*g when he is a straight cis man, down plays my emotions, etc).
as you can probs tell; i do NOT feel comfortable in my own home anymore. he stays here for the majority of every week and my mom leaves me alone with him when she is at work (this scares me because i have been SAed in the past by one of my mom's exes). i have tried to get to know him and i have made every single one of those advances/approaches yet he says to my mom that he wants to be there for me, be like a father to me. which, 1) the last thing i need is another man disappointing me when it comes to parenting, 2) he hasn't done ANYTHING to live up to his words and it's been a little over a month.
i am thinking of moving out if he moves in or his presence pushes my limits too far. i am already stretched thin emotionally and cannot take this anymore. i have a lil checklist to go through in order for me to be safe a prepared to leave at any time and then i will send a pre-written message to my mom. i already have several people that i can stay with until however long.
but... i also want to know if anyone has any experiences like this and could offer a little advice? that'd be amazing. :)
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