Kids before everything

I dont understand how people give birth to these innocent children and let any one around them. I dont even like alot of  family members around my kids. These men will have kids and dont be in their lives unless they're in love with the mother or leave the kids just to make kids with someone else same with women who just up and leave their kids. I dont trust people like this. The mothers are the main ones stuck with their children and let any one in their lives without doing a background check. A man pr woman got one time to make my child uncomfortable and they will be suffering consequences.  Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. I rather be q dingle mother who looks back on the memories me qnd my children spent than with someone who treated my kids horribly or knowing my child have any trauma because I let some demon in their lives