honestly =/= being rude and vice versa

ive been a casual kpop enjoyer for a few years now, and ive tried my best to not interact with the community or groups as much as i can and just listen to the music. of course, i do notice some disussions concerning some performers being stiff or not having the best vocals, and thats okay. as long as its peaceful criticism i think its not being rude (of course, i dont think excusing rudeness as honesty is cool). if a person's vocals are flat, i think that's alright and if they're a bit stiff, i think it's alright too-- and this is about a specific group. especially since the members are extremely young and some are middle schoolers, it's best if we just be nicer with our criticism or just don't give it at all if it's harsh. i'm not a fan of children performing in kpop, anyway, so this entire discussion's just a drop in the bucket.