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Today I tried talking to someone that looked really cool at my high school and I wanted to be her friend. So, since she has really cool hair, I gathered my courage to tell her—admittedly in a very gay way—saying that I loved her hair. She was nice and all and said, 'Thanks!! I dyed it myself, I like your shirt.' Then a REALLY awkward silence began. I thought to myself, 'What do I say now?'. She eventually told me her name and I introduced myself, and then I went away, without a new friend
How am i suposed to enable a conversation with anyone and make it half decent ? not just "whats your name" or "i like your shirt".
got any suggestions??
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Chica
I used to be a SUPER anxious person in middle school and also a bit weird so I struggled to talk to people like crazy.
In 7th grade I joined a yearbook production class which forced me to go out and interview people & forced me to socialize. I quickly realized that if you didn’t have good interviews your stories sucked so I started forcing myself to be more open.
One of the things I did was analyze actual interviews. I learned more from watching those high school videos where people ran around and interviewed their classmates for dumb videos. It was also something I thought was funny so it’s a more fun method imo
I also fixed my body language which is lowk hard but it’s worth it👀👀👀 I’m a god at eye contact now & if you do stuff like having open body language people are gen my willing to talk to you + if u have a rbf fix dat
It’s also important to show emotions. People respond better to you if they feel like they can read you easily so if your someone who doesn’t give a lot of physical reaction I think that’s a good thing to start doing
KNOW that you will feel embarrassed doing this stuff but it’s something you gotta fight through until you become immune
Another thing I started doing was cutting my own hair and buying clothes I liked which made me like myself a lot more and got more comfortable in myself which helped a bunch
I’m now a sophomore and have a bunch of friends and can actually talk to people. I usually end of leading convos now when I talk to new people which is a crazy step up from my 13year old self
Ok sorry this a lot but I hope this helps
ur like a friend scientist or smt like that. thanks 4 the support ! i'll follow your methods
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Flim
I had this situation so many times that i have learned that fandoms and hobbies REALLY matter when wanting to befriend someone like try to search things in common with such person by looking at pins or merch that they could have or simply go ask for it but that would require alot of social skills that i dont have so idk anything beyond that point
wish uluck!
yeah that would be cool but i get sooo nervous around people ,i dont know, but i'll try to pull it off
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