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I consider myself a self-concious person, i'm always trying to be the better version of myself and want to be liked by everyone. This is obviously a problem since it causes me anxiety everytime i'm meeting new people despite being a friendly and extroverted person.
When it comes to my personal problems i only open up when i can't handle them anymore, sometimes i'm ashamed of them and feel "cringe" when i talk about them. I was talking about it with my friend and she said i should talk about them always and leave the shame behind. Thing is, i'm not sure if i agree.
I love sensitive people, everytime i meet someone and they show their vulnerability, i'm naturally drawn to them. But if i'm honest, sometimes people just hold on to their problems and end up using them as an excuse for being mean or annoying.
Sometimes you just have got to have some social awareness, like you can't just be trauma dumping to everyone you meet and just be a pain in the ass. I hate when you tell someone they did something wrong and they just excuse it with their mental health. Of course its understandable to explain yourself but girl you ow an apology to that person.
Explaining your backstory, your traumas and the things that made you who you are is great, but it can be dangerous to use it as an "excuse". At the end of the day, its your responsability to try to change, go to the psicologist if you can, stop using your phone all day, try to be more positive...
Dont get me wrong, i understand how depression works and i know that sometimes trying is impossible. But even getting out of bed means you did something with your life, writing about your feelings... Tring to "excuse yourself" by trauma dumping will just make it worse for yourself and the people around you.
So basically, be sensitive and passionate, talk about your problems with someone you trust and don't make anyone responsable for your problems if they aren't. Don't try to hold on to your old versions and your childhood, you are always changing and improving as a person! Remember to not give up on life.
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//EMI'S
I agree with this blog
Worse, i find it quite ableist for people to use their disability as caveats. It's like they cannot be past their conditions. I say this as a person with ADD and low conscientiousness.
I agree, getting a diagnosis can help you understand yourself better, but there’s definitely another side to it. I feel like a lot of people end up embracing that aspect of themselves so much that they wind up using it to justify bad behavior.
by mery :3; ; Report
That's true, i fear alot of people turn it into a self fulfilling prophecy
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Sam
Es un buen punto este tema, y pensandolo hay personas aun inmaduras que se les escapa la situacion de las manos.
Pero persona inmadura o no, se crea conciencia; Saber que aquellos actos lastiman a otro.
Y sobre ello, hay personas que se terminan consumiendose. Que piensan que no hay razones de ser vistos y que no vale la pena molestar a otros.
Me es más triste eso, encontrarme con alguien cercano que pase por esa situacion. Y uno como humano puede acompañar y escuchar.
Y puede extender la mano, pero lo que a la otra persona le corresponde decidir...puede doler lo que no escoja. Pero no hay porque reprochar, ni pensar tanto el tiempo consumido hasta el final.
Porque uno mismo es abierto en aceptar, en no seguir para no cargarle conciencia a más conciencia atormentada. Y uno puede seguir con su vida, y la otra persona tambien. Porque asi como hay preocupacion de la sinceridad, otros tambien compadecen.
asi que, para las personas que normalmente estarian allí para aquella persona:
Tambien tiene la obligacion de aceptar, si la otra persona no tiene planeado cambiar y al igual que preocuparse por esa persona, preocuparse por uno mismo y no consumirse y seguir en esa relacion hasta que pierdas tu identidad. Porque te quedan cosas por vivir más adelante
Muy de acuerdo. Reprimir tus sentimientos y tus problemas acaba consumiendote (yo he estado en esa situación), tal vez por eso me agota cuando las personas deciden no hacerlo. Creo que lo mejor es llegar a un punto medio, y pedir ayuda cuando lo necesites
by mery :3; ; Report
es verdad que es muy difícil estar con alguien que sabes que no va a cambiar
by mery :3; ; Report
te lo juro. Al día de hoy creo que soy más recordada por alejarme, en lugar de ser recordada como una persona que intentó mantener los lazos cuando él dejó de intentarlo. Pero en fin, al día he seguido mi vida y al parecer a él tambien le va bien a lado de su novia.
Y espero que tu vida tambien avance para bien, suerte con día.
by Sam; ; Report
Muchas gracias! Espero que te vaya muy bien a ti tambien :D
by mery :3; ; Report