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I have this problem. I'm like, really, intensely in love with my partner. And, you might be like "Huh? Why's this a problem?" And, it's because, I'm being too much. I'd love to hangout, play games, or just, text them every day, but they need space because it can be a bit draining. Especially if they don't have time for their own things..
I'm trying to be reasonable by letting them be and such, but I have these intense needs where all I want is just to be with them. And knowing I can't out of respect for them is, really, really painful. Of course, I focus on my own hobbies, friends, and family.. and I even journal down my feelings quite frequently. But it doesn't.. make me miss my partner any less. I have no idea why I'm like this and why they're constantly on my mind, and it's making me confused.. and they also seem to have gotten used to being less with me as time has gone by, because it's "healthy".. alas I don't understand why I haven't gotten any better.. it hurts so much being away from them..
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Yanoli
I can understand to a certain extent, but I think all you need is a shift in perspectives, wanting to be around your partner is very normal you know? I think if you ridicule yourself less for it and accept it for what it is instead of trying to change it you’ll find yourself content and be more okay with the fact they’re not around when you want them to be.
It’s like, if you have an issue, the more you focus on that issue and replay it in ur head the more energy you’re infusing into the issue, therefore inflating it, making it bigger than it has to be, and your brain wires itself tight to this issue, to the point you can’t go a day without thinking about it, whereas if you accept it as something normal, the issue gets less focus, and you’re more clear headed on a daily basis, and maybe being clearheaded is all you really need, you have the space to think about other things, and perhaps the solution will come ur way on its own. Just my thoughts tho, hope you’re doing well 0_0
Selphira/Selphie
I see, so you saying you have need to be noticed? Or you have need to be with someone 24/7?
I do can understand, but never experienced this. All I can suggest is try keeping yourself busy. And this all, perhaps. But, everything is going away due time. It's not will be forever.
Thanks, it does help hearing this stuff..
Uh, it's probably more of a need to be with someone all the time. Except the someone specifically has to be my partner for some reason lol. Like I enjoy being with other people but it's in no way the same.
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Ah, I see now.
Hm, yes, this might be a problem for you. But I sadly can't help you much. I just hope everything you WILL endure.
by Selphira/Selphie; ; Report
Yeah it's no worries, thanks for believing though, that makes me a bit happy
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As long as you believe in yourself, I will believe too.
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I will.
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