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Am in need of advice and I don't feel like I can reach out to people I know because I don't want them to hate me
Anyways this goes back to a month ago
and I was invited to my friends house because they where having a barbecue
and so I come over and the first two hours are nice where hanging out and brought my Xbox so where playing on that
But then her mom ask for me to join her in grilling and I say yes
the grill is in the backyard away from everyone and she starts off by asking me normal questions
like how summer etc
But then she starts venting about how her daughter (my friend) has all these lesbian friends and one time she had a girl coming over and staying the night everyday
(the thing with that girl is that shes my friends ex)
and the mom talks about how she doesn't even come over anymore and then
she goes "I know everything your mom told me everything"
(And I would tell my mom what's going on with my friends and stuff and I told my mom how my friend and that girl where dating) (and am like my mom would do that?)
"I cant believe my daughter would do that"
(This part is where I messed up)
"Well I mean I guess your daughter should have told you before if she was gay...."
"What?"
"yeah about her being gay"
"My daughter's gay?"
and then I realized what I done I try to act like its a joke and such and I had in and for the whole rest of the day shes glaring at her daugther
and she starts talking about her ex
"Like why didnt you invite that girl over she used to come everyday I hope your not keeping secrets away from me."
super obvious shit and I was just in the backyard with her mom too so it makes it look super bad on my part
and then I go home and my moms driving me and I ask hey did you tell her mom about her ex and my moms like well I didn't really tell her I just said that her ex was gay
(oh thanks mom!)
always I go home and I text my friend in the morning hey what's up?
(The reply I got was of her mom saying that shes not gonna be able to use her phone anymore)
(This made my heart drop and it only got worse The next few days go by and my friend post on her story about how much she hates the person that told her mom and I hope that person goes fucks themselfs and explains how shes posting it on her brothers old phone because the took her devices away from her and how she doesnt even have a door on her wall)
And then her friends start texting me on how they think its me and how much of a piece of shit I am and am lying to them saying it wasn't me but they said my friend already knows it you
anyways thats it
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Red Boots
damn that;s rough..
honeslty.. as obvious as it sounds, all you can do is just to tell the truth, but you to go to this friend of yours and admit what happened the way IT happened. yes she might be mad, but is better to just admit everything. if yours friends truly care about both of you, they would understand how both of you feel. accidents happen, and at the end of the day, she couldnt hide it forever from her family. it is also important how she reacted when she spoke w her mother about the gay allegations. your friend was def not ready to come out, but her parents finding out is not entirely your fault. at some point, it was supposed to happen, and you had no mean intensions, the situation was unclear. besides, you brushed it off as a joke, if the eldery woman didnt trust you, yes, it might be one thing, but at the same time, maybe the friend addmited herself by accident that this is the truth. i dont know how much you know abt their argument, but all you can do is try to apologize and maybe check on their mother too? since your parents know each other, might as well discuss this with her, maybe she can downgrade the situation? even if this wouldnt be a phase for your friend, lying it up to satisfy her mother saying this is just experimenting, a rebel time, a hate for men and a wish to be loved properly, or even blame some older kids at school who told you being gay is better. i hope everything will be fine between you two but also with her family. good luck
god I really was clueless on what to do thank you for the advice and I'll be doing what you said I think your absolutely right
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glad i could do somethin!
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