is my ex friend an asshole???

hello spaceyhey i have a question and I would like anyone who reads this to give their opinion down below :))

so basically i used to have this friend (im gonna call her meenie) so meenie was my friend for ab 3 years we werent that close but then we had a math class together and got pretty close and then she started dating my best friend and we made a little group, but for some reason there was this one fight where everything just kind of fell apart and I and one of the other girls in our group (who happened to be meenie's still best friend and confidant) were left to pick up the pieces, and after that night all of us were never the same again really, my bet friend and meenie would fight alot and she started fighting with me too, calling me controlling and things (i was anything but, she claimed i didnt let her hang out with her friends, but i claimed she shouldnt bc she told be she didnt want to bc they were pressuring her to vape and were homophobic) she also almost basically cheated on my best friend so after  while, i told my best friend just go with what her heart says (bc i ended up being the middle man in a lot of their fights and my best friend would often tell me she wanted to break up with meenie) and they ended up breaking up, after that meenie and i got rlly close and it ws good, she found a new gf who was rlly sweet (despite meenie being rlly open ab being rlly mean to her nw sweet gf) but then i got into a pretty bad state of depression, I told her ab it and in the middle of me crying to her, she dicthed me for her gf (to be fair, she gave me warning but then told me she was gonna call me but she never did) and i got mad and told a couple ppl the she called me a big mouth n shit, wtv she was mad for a while so i let her be, i worked with myself and basically got over it, we became friends again it was chill, she told me later it wasnt just bc of that it was bc my best friend and meenie became close again and my best friend told meenie that i told my best friend to break up with her, she was rlly weird ab it but wtv, we hang out some over the summer then suddenly i get a text basically saying "heyyyy so basically u are  good person but ur controlling and this reationship isnt good for my mental health and i tried to ignore it but I just couldnt anymore.. its not you its me no hard feelings" and that was it, she also basically ripped our group apart bc despite the fact that all the members of ourgroup despite meenie have talked shit ab her they will not drop her for anything 

(also i gave her a bunch of gifts and let her borrow things i have BEGGED her to give back and she still has them..)

ty for listening :) gbye