IF YOU ARE IN A SITUATIONSHIP, READ THIS IF U WANT ADVICE

It's been a month since I blocked my situationship and 5 months since I've SEEN my situationship. I've been on a journey of reflection and living single life. It's honestly great. I know some things I might say is based on what I believe in but trust me, living through a situationship is horrible. I cried for months about it because I wanted a relationship but he wouldn't, and if you find yourself in a situation like that, I promise you, RUN. RUN THE OTHER WAY. NO IT DOESN'T GET BETTER. NO THEY WOULDN'T CHOOSE YOU OVER ANYTHING. I mean, if it does get better for you and your situationship partner, that's good for you...I don't know why situationships happen but know it just means that the other person probably doesn't know what they want. Or you either. While it's normal to know what you don't want, PLEASE STOP PLAYING WITH SOMEONE. 

You deserve the best, you deserve a loving partner who does want you (if that's what u want). You don't deserve to be played by some prick who can't make up their mind. To me, love can be shown in a lot of different ways but I know that love is supposed to be reciprocated. Love is never one-sided and you shouldn't have to go through all of that.

SO HERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD AVOID:

- if you're in a situationship, DO NOT give them love like as IF you are their bf/gf/partner because it will just fuel them more to give you nothing. They get attention from you because of how you treat them then they will most likely give nothing back. If they really do want you, they would try.

- "If they wanted to, they would". I had a hard time forming an opinion about it because I know that the other person can't read your mind but at the same time, someone would really try hard enough if they really like the person, and I think that's way better than some douche giving nothing. 

- if the person L-BOMBS you. Saying the words "I love you" so quickly into getting to know them is really weird. And it is because really think about it, what do they love about you?

- if they only call you at night ft. freaky callz. If they only call u at night to do freaky things, that's a HUGE red flag and idk what the hell you are still doing in that call. I won't shame, I'm sure many people have done it too but if you're in that situation, for sure they're using you. There's no love in that. 

-if they never talk about you to their family or friends. Basically if they are trying to keep you a secret, it just means they don't want to really want to be seen with you. PS. if they're keeping u a secret bc ur a minor and they're an adult, highkey you gotta get out. It is VERY VERY ILLEGAL. NOT WORTH IT. 

- if they get with someone else because they just see you as a "friend" even though yall might be doing more than what friends do. This is another huge red flag because it really shows that they think they have a high ego to be with a lot of different people all at the same time. I know you might be desperate but don't feed into it. 

- lastly, if they promise they're over and you guys are done with the situationship but they keep running back to you or you run back to them. Atp, what the FUCK are you doing. Letting them back in or you going back to them?? babes that's not okay. Keep doing the on and off shit and you're just gonna lose some friends. Especially if they tell you not to go back or to take them back. 

So dear reader, I want you to know that you will find love if you so desire it. I know a lot of people can be horrible on this planet which is why you must not lower the bar down to hell. Know what you want and know what is your boundaries. Have patience and acknowledge red flags. Though we know you're colorblind to the color red. 

Situationships can happen both ways while it does affect a lot of women, I know there are some men who are probably experiencing it too. Just know you don't have to suffer isolating yourself into a relationship that isn't even real. I know it's easier said than done but seriously, know your worth if you don't want to end up played. Someone loves you. (def not them tho).