does it count as SA?

My father hasn't been in my life too much since my mom and him broke up right after having me. I've lived with my mom, my stepdad and my two younger half-siblings for 13 years. But in 7th grade I fell deep into drvg and sh addiction, which is why i moved to my dad during summer break. My dad's wife also has two kids (my step-siblings) who are 14 and 16. I'm 14 as well and I'm in the same class as my sis. When I first moved to my dad, I noticed him being a bit weird towards me. He used to sleep in my bed until I was 13 and touched like the sides of my chest and my thighs as well, but luckily he stopped sleeping in my bed. He comes into my room like about 3 or 4 times per hour and then always tickles me, touches my inner thighs and sometimes he also kinda brushes my private parts with his hands (?) He also smacks my butt sometimes and whenever I tell him to stop what he's doing he just ignores it. I think he sees it more like a type of joke, because he's like always laughing and biting his lip while doing those things. Just a week ago I was changing when he walked into my room. I told him to get out (cause I was naked) and he just stood there and watched while saying sorry, so then I yelled at him to get out and he just stepped outside but didn't close the door all the way. He stared through the gap and watched me change and its also not the first time that something like this has happened. He also touches me whenever he can (especially my inner thighs and my waist) and for some reason he likes to grab my foot when I'm not wearing socks (??) He also just randomly starts to massage me sometimes and I tell him to stop but he just keeps going. My sis says that he doesn't mean it like that and it's just a joke but I feel so uncomfortable that I don't even wanna go home after school because I know that he will be there. I know that he probably just thinks it's funny or whatever but I'm genuinely so scared that he's gonna do something to me because I truly think that he is capable of it. 


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[ Abel ⚉ ]

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Yes it is, even if he thinks is just a joke. All the things you're telling are sexual harassment and it could lead to sexual assault if it gets worse.


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Georgia

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Yes, this does count as SA. As SA means:when someone touches another person in a sexual manner without the person’s consent. And counts as a few more other things such as:

sa to a person that is incapacitated to give consent (incapacitated- in this context means unable to give consent such as when asleep).

Possible voyeurism- meaning watching someone is a sexual/ private act (such as changing) without their consent.

Groping/fondling- meaning intentional unwanted touching of a person’s intimate parts.

Furthermore, this can also count as molestation and grooming since your sister finds it normal it means she’s also been groomed into thinking that. I really hope you do get out of this unfortunate situation.


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This also counts as sexual harassment as you mentioned he makes jokes about this. Plus, it’s not like you didn’t try to stop it as you’ve told him no and have not given consent to these acts (SA is still SA even when you did or didn’t say anything)

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Oh I am so sorry. That does sound like SA, and it's real concerning. please try to tell a trusted adult so you can get away from that


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omg please report him!!!! that is absolutely SA and don’t let urself or him tell u it’s a joke cause it’s not! this is predatory behavior, i hope u will get out of there soon, wish u luck


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