Is there a connection between the traumas you suffer during childhood and your subsequent development as an alternative person?
For a while now, I’ve been seeing a specific type of comment on videos of alternative people—things like "she definitely doesn't have a dad" or "the importance of hugging your children." These comments are clearly derogatory and only seek to belittle people who dress and think differently.
However... Thinking about it for a moment, does not having a present father figure truly have an influence? Looking at it from personal experience, it might seem like it does; all the alternative friends I have have suffered certain things during their childhood in one way or another—absent parents, dysfunctional families, bullying, some even worse things. Of course, it is not a constant for either side; suffering doesn't make you alt, and being alt doesn't mean you had to suffer. My hypothesis is that the safe spaces you take refuge in could have an influence. Ideally, these would be your family and friends, but if you don't have a good relationship with your family and you don't have friends, you will look for your safe space elsewhere, probably taking refuge in the internet, music, and writing. Following this thread, it's not hard to get from one point to another; eventually, you open yourself up to new ways of thinking and experiencing art. (I think).

Actually, even though I'm interested in alternative culture and I have definitely had a very dysfunctional family, I don't consider myself an alternative person; I have ideals and tastes that are somewhat out of the ordinary, but as far as it goes, I'm someone very conventional and I'm really not conflicted about that. If you belong to any subculture and have something to add, that would be great. Well, that's all, thanks, bye.
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purenecro
its normal for people with dysfunctional families to seek non-normative spaces that understand and uplift them. a lot of abused kids become "weird kids" and that's a very isolating experience, so the internet is usually a way of meeting cultures that actually accept them. but my theory is since alternative culture is inherently a political culture about going against the norms, acceptance and resistance, a survivor tends to be drawn into it. because being alternative means being against oppressors, whether that be a political oppressor or your own family members