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“ i love you” but you’re not in love with me. You can’t give me romantic gratification, which means that I can’t confirm whether or not I’m a good person.
sighhhhh, I wanna prove that I am lovable.
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“ i love you” but you’re not in love with me. You can’t give me romantic gratification, which means that I can’t confirm whether or not I’m a good person.
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ItzR4v3n
I believe everyone is lovable.
I mean, as long as you're not a murderer for fun, racist, sexist, rapist, pedophile and all those other hateful stuff, including abuse and manipulation, you're a good person in my book.
However, from my own experience with an ex-friend, I just want to remind you that your future partner can't love you *for you*. *They* can love you, they can be *in* love with you, but if you don't love yourself, they can't do it for you. That is something that romantic partners don't want to be stuck with in the long-term unless there are signs you're getting better.
NOT shaming you for feeling this way! Your feelings are completely valid and I understand where you're coming from.
However, before you seek someone's else's approval, focus on yourself first. WHAT is the issue that makes you think you're not lovable? Is it a major flaw or just a character quirk? Can you improve it, do you have the capacity to fix it? If you don't have the resources, are there simpler solutions e.g. instead of the gym maybe at-home workouts? Is it something you can distinguish and fix by yourself, or do you need assistance? There is no shame in asking for help