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_ﮩ٨ـﮩﮩ٨ـ•°♡ Advice Request - A Copycat ♡°•ﮩ٨ـﮩﮩ٨ـ_
So for context I have this friend I shall call Bob. They're kind, thoughtful & help me through a lot (╥﹏╥). Bob has seen me throughout many difficult parts of my life and I can't think them enough for sticking with me. Me and Bob are quite similar; we're both alternative & share a similar music taste which I thought nothing of as despite our similarities, we had our differences too. Recently thought Bob admitted having feelings for me for 2 years straight 𐔌՞. .՞𐦯 and admitted they've left former relationships because they "just aren't you". Bob means no harm, but I can see obsession brewing.
The copycat element started when I recently started changing my appearance rapidly (4 new piercings, hair dye & more within a month) as I had left a relationship where I was forced to be a normie. ₍^. .^₎⟆. Bob got the exact same piercing as myself. I talked about my favourite artist (Rebzyy) and Bob pretended to be another fan. I tested bob's knowledge by asking their favourite song they couldn't even name one song making be doubt they are also a "knowledgeable fan" as they claim. Bob also came out with a new gender identity & sexuality when I came out as Lesbian ｡°(°¯᷄◠¯᷅°)°｡ [Bob came out within 4 hours of me coming out btw, and I was Bisexual prior to this]. When I bought my pet recently Bob attempted to buy a pet themself.
...God I feel so uncomfortable (╥﹏╥) what can I even do? I don't wanna lose Bob nor do I think they're being nasty but this is so much to handle.
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toastycat
sometimes people really take on their friends' hobbies and quirks to connect with them, but this is definitely going super far. Tbh I would have an honest conversation with Bob and focus on HOW their actions are affecting you, rather than saying how Bob is being weird/creepy. A true friend will take this as an opportunity to adjust their behavior, and if not, you may have to look at setting some boundaries with them.
I'll definitely speak to Bob, I feel a lot more sane now because I've had a few more people agree it's gone too far ૮꒰ ˶• w •˶꒱ა ♡ Bob will probably deny it initially but regular small conversations should coax them into saying something.
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