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there is this guy im talking to who is extremely kind, romantic, thoughtful, and handsome. Iv caught myself presenting avoidant behaviors to him and i just dont know how to grow from it yet im scared to mess up this chance with him
For context my last relationship the guy got with his ex right after we broke up and the guy before him was basically the devil himself (Cheating, physical violence you name it he probably did it) So any time i start to feel sad jealous or anxious about a man my bride instantly makes me want to pull away so i dont feel that way.
For example if i feel jealous he is talking to another girl i will distance myself. I know its unfair to him i'm just super scared to put myself in a position to get hurt so bad over a relationship again.
He tells me he understands my position and he wants a relationship with me so he is willing to wait and work this out with me but i dont even really know how to change. I very much do want to change tho, so if any one has any advice pls lmk^^
ang3l xoxo
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anne
I think you should discuss this with him every time you feel like you are avoiding him because for example you were jealous of a girl.. tell him that you feel jealous and you feel like avoiding him and tell him that you think it is wrong like
"I feel jealous that you talked to this girl but I don't want to control your life" he would maybe comfort you and assure you that he loves you (and if you need or feel like apologizing then, apologize if you see yourself avoiding him again)
I'm not a therapist and I'm just a random person online so take my advice with a grain of salt but, I think honesty is important in a relationship remember that
I hope I helped even a little, I wish you two the best!!