Blog #2: What does it mean to be an Adult?

Growing up as  a kid in the 90's , I always looked at things like tv shows, movies, or people in my own life for inspiration. To me, they were the living examples of what it meant to be an "adult". They had jobs, were independent, looked to be financially stable or well off, hung out with their friends often, etc. They made it look SO easy, that when I became an adult, I felt really lost and confused, and slightly ripped off. All that was promised to me was MUCH harder to achieve or reach. Sure, factors like education, job wages and opportunities can effect ones chances and outcomes. But back in the day, it didn't seem that hard. People could still get a good job with just a High School diploma, and afford the basic necessities and a modest small home to rent. Try doing that today, good luck! 

Aside from all that though, it's also got me thinking about what makes an adult, an adult. People older than myself would always say that once you're an adult you put all your childish stuff behind you, you settle down, focus on more important things. But who came up with such a "rule"? And why is that idea pushed that you have to give  up the things you once enjoyed, the things that at some  point made you happy? Why are "adults" expected to become full on serious and bland? We're all humans with likes/ dislikes, hobbies/interests, and it shouldn't be expected that we just drop those things like a bad habit because we get a year older. Sure, some responsibility and maturity will be necessary as well, but I don't feel like that requires one to strip themselves entirely of who they are and what makes them happy just to fit into some societal mold.

As an adult myself, I've come to learn that one doesn't have to change who they are entirely just to be more "adult" like. If you like video games, play them. If you like cute toys or stuffed animals, collect them. If it makes you happy and you are able to survive I.e have food, and shelter and pay your bills, who cares what others or society says. Especially in a world like we have these days where a lot is going on, a lot of bad and negativity, that it shouldn't be seen as a crime to enjoy that small ounce of happiness whatever it may be. We NEED it for our own sanity in some cases. Overall though, despite being an adult like in age, I've honestly never felt like an adult. I've felt as I had when I was a teenager. I love being around my friends, my family, those important to me, doing the things I like and that make me happy, listening to music I grew up with and dressing in styles I always have. And the reality is, i've come to notice A LOT of people my age are doing the same, even with getting married and having a kid or two.

All this is to say, don't worry about becoming an adult. Continue being true to yourself, what you love, and follow your dreams/goals. You don't have to become a whole new person and erase the you, you have always been.