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As a furry, I have a hard time doing anything at all with normal society. I hate making friends then finding out that they have 20 different mental disorders. I love being a furry. I love making friends but then find out they don't know how to open up and I tell these people, "BTW if you feel as if I do anything wrong, tell me" But instead, what do they do? They run away.
I HATE upsetting people. Now I feel bad.
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Possum
Yeahhhh the furry fandom def has some odd folks in it. One of the many reasons I stepped away from it. It's a shame that they run away, though. Hopefully you'll find some long time friends that don't do that
I found STRAIGHT women for a change. Anyone that knows the furry fandom know that it's mostly gay and trans at this point and to find a straight cis female/male person is slim to non basically. Me, being 1 of the less thousand...
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Straight women in the furry community?? Man you sure it ain't 40 year old dudes pretending to be them? XD
Nah but fr though that is pretty rare to see, hopefully it goes better for you. In my case I wasn't so lucky.. and by that I just mean in general, wasn't lucky with the fandom and the kinds of people I ran into.
by Possum; ; Report
Yeah I've met a handful of straight women in the furry community and I'm just going to be straight up honest most of them are fugly. I hate being that shallow but I've learned that in the furry community a lot of people through standards and preferences out the window just to have sex. And honestly it's sort of pathetic
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Eh it's what's inside that counts.. but yeah in 2026 that's an 'old and outdated way of thinking'. The fandom has a lot of sex obsessed people in it, and personally I wouldn't look for a partner there because of that. I wish I could give some better advice but I gave up on all that stuff tbh.
by Possum; ; Report
Well with this kind of thing, with being a furry makes it so much harder to find somebody that's not a furry cuz you know how people are. They're not very open minded with us furries. So trying to find a non furry is impossible these days
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
I mean that's kinda one of the many reasons why I've given up. I don't really have a group or category I fit into, and I doubt there's anybody out there similar to me. I just kinda do my own thing.
I wish you the best of luck though, man. Maybe you'll have more success than I did
by Possum; ; Report
There are 8B people on this planet according to the world data. If 1/1M is true, you'll find someone.
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Even if that is true, that's just people who have stuff in common with me. That doesn't take into consideration if I'm their type/attractive or desirable to them, looking for the same thing they are, or take into account the fact that we have to somehow someway just miraculously run into each other some day.. it all just seems really improbable - especially in today's age of shallowness but I still appreciate it, my friend
by Possum; ; Report
20 years ago of course you had to think about the population was smaller. Every decade up till now the population of the world has grown significantly because we have better medicine and can live longer periods So yeah there's going to be somebody out there. I think it's just because you're so scared of the what if versus actually trying to put yourself out there.
This is one of the reasons why I'm on Facebook dating and other dating apps just to see if I can talk to anybody. If you don't put yourself out there, if you don't talk to other people, you never know.
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Could be, but tbh I vowed never to online date again after every bad run in I had with it previously. I will only date in person, and that's if me and the other person are even interested, which so far I have not ran into anyone interested in me or anyone I'm interested in. I figured I'm gonna do it the old fashioned way, in person and try being friends with a girl first to really see if we hit it off. I need time to grow attached to people, but when I do it's a very strong slow burn.. in contrast to the fast paced everything of today's dating world. That kinda life just ain't for me. I'm not in it for hookups or anything, I've always wanted a wife and kids, but tbh I'm finding other dreams to chase because that one is looking unlikely.
by Possum; ; Report
When you think of "online dating" you're thinking of long distance, you're thinking of not meeting for months at a time. What I'm saying is to find someone in your area from it. The issue with dating these days is the awkward way of asking someone out and not knowing how they are gonna react and if they react badly well here we are, getting yelled at and hoping that no one whines online and tries to cancel someone over it. My god, some of those dating sites are BROKEN. I tried to tell some of them to STAY WITHIN 50 MILES OR LESS but then it jumps me all over the damn US... Like really? nah that's annoying. You'll find someone, just keep your eyes open.
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Yeah that's why I prefer to be friends with a girl first before deciding if that's something both of us might be interested in. I know most people can't, but I can take rejection and still be friends with a girl and not make it weird or it even really feel weird. If she's not interested then she's just not interested. I'd much rather just develop connections the old fashioned way if at all, dating apps don't interest me because they're all products of hookup culture and I refuse to let myself be a number for a bunch of women online who could care less about me. I am by no means a perfect man, in fact I'd argue I'm a pretty broken one, but I'm still worth more than that. If I'm gonna love at all, I want it to start naturally somewhere like a coffee shop or my local grocery store. That doesn't happen these days, but that's what I want, and if I gotta reduce myself to just a profile on an app begging for love then I'd just much rather be alone at that point whether I wanted to be or not. I don't see the point in using an app to let people in my area know I'm single and possibly looking when if someone was truly interested, they could always just come up to me and ask.. but to each their own. It works for some folks.
by Possum; ; Report
I feel ya on it too, I CAN Be friends with a woman first, I take rejection fine, but my biggest flaw is that I AM afraid but I can take it? I dunno if that makes sense. This is also why I wish VRchat was 18+. Have date night for things like this. Also, I didn't think about it till now, huh you and I are straight furries LMAO. That's rare xD
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Yeah that makes sense, it's possible to fear something while also being able to accept it/the outcome. Also sorta. I don't really involve myself with the fandom these days, and I don't really call myself a furry, but I draw anthros still sometimes when I manage to beat art block. Before my distancing, though, I was a straight furry and yeah it's pretty rare lol. Fandom is mostly full of dudes who on average like other dudes.
by Possum; ; Report
As you've said before many times, I know how you feel about it, there's no harm in being a furry and barely associating with it. If I've learned anything about being a furry around the last 15 years is that it's better to have a close group of (furry) friends VS being in BIG groups. I went to FWA here in Ga and I thought it was fucking cringy as hell.
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Ah sorry didn't mean to repeat myself. Also I wouldn't know, a few people I know/talk to regularly are furries of the chill variety but I don't have a friend group of them. Also never been to a convention nor do I plan to but from what I've seen, they kinda look cringy and boring.
Also you're right - there's nothing wrong with being a furry and barely associating with the fandom, if that's what floats your boat, but these days the fandom's priorities have shifted and it's no longer about the art. Even barely associating still feels off imo. These days I just call myself an anthro artist and leave it at that :P
by Possum; ; Report
Depends on the convention period Furry conventions yeah they're cringy I will tell you this if you ever get the chance to go to like Comic-Con, DragonCon, MomoCon, things that don't have a specialty to them and they're just in all over nerd convention, those are the best ones. We have DragonCon here in Georgia and it is a load of fun. So many panels, you get to meet celebrities. Check out the dealers didn't. I mean of course you're going to run into cringy crab and you can't get over that but what are you going to do lol. Otherwise it's a shitload of fun. Some of the cosplays are phenomenal. I usually go as like Spider-Man cuz I have a very good suit and I need to get back into shape for it too
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
True, true, that's what I meant. Should've specified furry conventions specifically. Technically I have been to a convention but I wasn't there specifically for it. I was at Dallas Market Hall attending Hot Import Nights like 8 or so years ago and they had an anime expo as part of it. No furries there, or at least anyone dressed up in suits anyway. There was English dub VA for.. I think it was My Hero Academia? Idk my homie who went with me knew them and got their autographs. I'm not a big anime guy, got a few favorites but yeah.
I did go to Scarborough Fair a few years back with my grandpa and saw a chick there with a furry head and tail. Thought that was interesting to see at a Renaissance Festival of all places. Dallas has some conventions, but I haven't been to most. Also never really cosplayed outside of attending school dances during Halloween in middle school XD I don't think I got the figure for it really, but it is a pretty cool hobby
by Possum; ; Report
I got to meet vic mignogna who voices Ed in FMA, that was awesome.
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report
Never seen it, but I bet it was
by Possum; ; Report
Oh yeah Fullmetal alchemist is definitely one of my favorite animes. I suggest it over brotherhood but people who are more faithful to the manga will love brotherhood probably more. But I never read the manga
by Tarrabyte.exe; ; Report