breaking in doc martens????

I’m not even gonna try and make this look pretty, how THE JXDKNSSP do you break in Doc Martens? I can’t seem to get mine to break in. Now, granted, I don’t wear mine a lot because they hurt but I can’t even get my foot in them without that sharp stabbing pain in my ankle. 

Is there a way to like— Break them in manually that works? Because me beating the crap outta them and bending them seem to be useless— Any tips??