how do you really accept yourself as a person?

what does it mean to actually accept yourself as a person, I don't mean by being mindful and understanding that the world doesn't revolve around you i mean just accepting of what you are as a person. I feel like everybody has got a long road ahead of them especially people my age where like myself i just constantly complain about life in front of a mirror everyday while knowing that im privileged asf and shouldn't be complaining or dwell on how much i hate myself as a person. I feel like this all the time but i know if i were to be different otherwise and not be this sensitive person every now and then i wouldn't felt much more better about myself because the thing is i know as a sensitive person im able to have a sense of empathy in others being able to tap into one's own emotions and so forth but like why tf does that matter when i live in a world where empathy can't be considered valuable because its this complex emotion people feel and when people think that empathy can lead to doing good in the world for everybody it only ends doing good to the people who are in power rather than the marginalized. This is a complex topic in its own right but i wanted to make this clear since i watched this video that talked about class of 09 (link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9eQe9bkRPs) its referring to the topic of empathy and I know im gonna go off topic here but when your somebody who is deeply anti social as a person what makes you any different than a person who is able to have sympathy in another person. Not much tbh because i feel as if some "empathic" people only seem to use empathy to garner not attention but control over others and overturn makes others who have experienced being around with those types of people feel much more empty in themselves idk how to really best explain as a person who isn't really anti social but as somebody who is just not able to control emotions, my mom specifically keeps telling me to be some sort of stoic to other people, to not care what people think or say at you and i mean she is right but the thing im pointing is how can you say that to yourself as a person when it comes to other people's emotions being expressed in a different way where for example you may think someone who yells at you thinks there just mad at you for some reason but its just their way of trying to tell you something which has NEVER EVER made me understand somebody like that or the fact how guys usually talk to each other as "friends" is just the occasional shit talk as a way of being another "homie" or whatever is such bullshit i can't wrap my head around it. Understanding people or anything is just fucking horrible its a genuine horrible experience we all go through as human beings but i think im gonna end it here since this blog is getting too long so my conclusion is that i just can't stop hating myself no matter how much i think about other people's lives i just can't.