(update 2) They finally came clean

Ok, the title is a bit misleading, because I think they're still trying to keep it on the down low. Let me clarify: They finally came clean to Star's gf, who will be known from now on as Ruby. It was last Friday, four days after when they had intended to originally and nearly two weeks after the incident. But hey, better late than never, right?

I only found out because I saw Ruby crying in the hallway and I comforted her as she explained. And real shocker, she said what I (and others) had been saying the entire time: That the thing that hurt the most was Star choosing to date Sylvia after all of this. In Ruby's words, that she left her for Sylvia. My heart breaks for Ruby, truly. When I told her how I felt about it, she told me it made her feel less crazy and less like she was overreacting, because apparently when it all went down, everyone there was acting like it wasn't a big deal (surprise to no one). Which may I just say, is next level mind-fuck shittiness. If you're gonna do something terrible, at least act like it's terrible. 

On another note, I've gathered that most of mine and Sylvia's mutual friends feel the same main things as I do:
- Star and Sylvia are downplaying the situation
- It makes matters worse that they're choosing to date now
- Sylvia is acting selfishly
- None of us want to lose our friend, but she's making it very difficult to stay with her
Which is really telling that at least four or five people feel the exact same way. And Sylvia still isn't listening to the advice that she asked for. 

Speaking of Sylvia, I had another conversation with her on the same day that Star broke up with Ruby. It wasn't supposed to be a fight, but it kind of turned into one when Sylvia began becoming heated and defensive. We essentially just said the same stuff to each other as the first time, until Sylvia gave up when I wouldn't agree to try and see it from Star's perspective. She said that "I had won*" and that she was just "tired of people" (which is ironic coming from the person who started all of this). So we decided that this was just something we were going to have to agree to disagree on. I told her honestly what I would do if they kept dating; that I wouldn't want to be around them or talk about their relationship at all with her (something we typically did in the past). 

What really pisses me off is the fact that she keeps posting on her instagram notes stuff like "oh I love my girlfriend". Apparently she's been acting like that in class, too, according to my friend. Which feels like such a brag, I mean, what do you want us to say? Congratulations for ruining someone's life so you could feel wanted? Before our second "fight", she kept bringing her up in conversation and saying little things that were unnecessary (knowing full well that I was uncomfortable with their relationship and had already stated that I wasn't going to be cheering her on). 

For example, Sylvia and I have this mutual friend who skates on the same team as Star. Sylvia recorded a video of the skating show to send to me to show me our mutual friend. The first mention of Star was when she said "I went to see uh... My girlfriends... Skating show". I had not mentioned Star nor asked why Sylvia was there (because I already assumed why). She clearly wanted me to ask about the "girlfriend" thing, because at this point I didn't know they were official. Because I don't care, I didn't mention it and instead replied to the message she had sent before that (which was talking about our mutual friend still). After I said that, she goes on to say the second thing about Star: "It was really good. (mutual friend) was good. Star looked beautiful." Again, I didn't say anything about that because like I had told her before, I don't care. And I don't like the fact that they're dating, it's sickening. But she continued to cross my boundaries when she brought it up a third time, after sending another video from the show. She said, "This was before Star came on so I was like oh I'll film. And she came out and I... Locked in."

The conversation kind of ended there, but it was really annoying how she kept trying to bring up her relationship with Star when I had already expressed that I didn't want to discuss that with her. And she's going to find that a lot of people are going to act the same way as I am, because it's a really uncomfortable situation that no one wants to be around.

Anyways, that's kind of it for now. I guess I'll see what happens now, but I'm probably gonna be avoiding Sylvia and Star for a long time. It hurts, though. I don't want to lose Sylvia as a friend, even though it's probably for the best if she's going to act this way. I miss who she was before this, but according to her, this is who she's always been. 

UPDATE FOR THE UPDATE: A few days after this, Sylvia started talking to me again. We had a good conversation not relating to any of this--good until she brought up Star. She begged me to listen to her explain their uh... Moment of intimacy. Of course, I didn't wanna fucking hear it (like I'd told her before) because it makes me icky and uncomfortable. She begged some more and I finally gave in, which was wrong of me but I didn't wanna be an asshole. Though after a few messages of her explaining I just turned off my phone and stopped responding. If she violates my boundaries like that again I'm... Well actually, I won't let her. But if she tries to then I'll do something. I don't know what I'll do, but I'll do it. 

*Side note: This sentence is really telling. The fact that she viewed our argument as something to win is sad. I wasn't trying to win, I was trying to reason.