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i think a lot of people can relate but going through platforms such as discord or amino at a young age made us see a lot of particular (and dangerous) people.
i expected the same on spacehey and it did/does happen.
i got hit with a few IMs with thirsty individuals who somehow get turned on by a profile????which is highly concerning
but i also received messages here (and not only) of attempts at flirting by people using my mental state. super weird i know but this is a great example of the fetishization of mental illnesses
individuals sexualizing mental health hoping for some obsessive attention is a scary phenomenon. A lot of mentally ill people are vulnerable when not stable, playing on that is absolutely disgusting. and the way certain ppl dont expect a partner but just a mentally ill "yandere" following them around for the thrill like bruh. when they meet actual mentally ill ppl who are diagnosed + hospital every 3 months combo, thats when they start asking for restraining orders
i also blame this new trend of watering down medical terms, turning everything into a joke. no you arent "bipolar bpd princess core soooo depressed </3 im overstimulated thanks to my autism!!! #schizo cuz im joking alone on the subway" no no no get a grip
i go around on spacehey hoping for some friendly fun but get hit with randoms who think love is like a psychotic simulation, stay safe out there!!!!!
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BL00DBAG
fiction romantacized it to a fault, it is really tragic, of course only when it is pretty and glamour is it acceptable, the aesthetic of the yandere, of the dainty ed, of the manic pixie dream girl..
i am bipolar, and I had people drawn to me for certain moments of my life or repelled by me, with only one change, the aesthetic ..
i could be manic, impulsive, dangerous, lets go travel with no plan no money just to romantacize life, lets follow these strangers, lets miss work to travel, idk, somehow then i had people fall in love with me after a few hours of talking, i had a guy tell me to live with him, after one night of talking, i had friends leave everything behind, i guess i was fun and i made it look fun, cool, glamourous,
many of my old friends didnt recognize me when i was acctually depressed, messy hair and clothes, and no sleep, not gonna lie even i cant stand to look at pictures from that certain era, but my personality my mind my heart was the same, but it wasnt worth idealising anymore, it was honestly quite sad, i usef to push everyone forward but when i hit rock bottom i was so alone
in the internet it is easier even to be romantacized, you get to curate a whole aesthetic, persona, people will project on you what they find beautiful, as if you ll change their lives
i never believed anyone who said they loved me, mental illness is not pretty, but they dont see the behind the scenes, they see how it manifests artistically and how it makes you hold on to love .. they see what they want .. not who you are.
austux
allsow as someone that tends to get obsesive/codependent it pisses me of soo bad when biches ade like haha omg i want somone thats obseaed w me but then the sec i send 50+ mesges a day and my hole life revolves around them and i get upset at them havibg other ppl and so on its suddenly anoyong??? BRUHH U ASKED FOR TS???? dont enable me if u cant handle me at my worst? like ofc dont enable me at all but??? idk ppl donf know shit ab mental health
dollface4
I’m waiting VERY IMPATIENTLY for the day mental illness isn’t fetishized because they always want someone who’s mentally ill until they actually are mentally ill. You want a sexy, protective secret admirer. Not a mentally ill person who likely hasn’t washed their body in quite some time due to the crushing weight of waking up every morning (ofc I’m not dogging on people who don’t take care of personal hygiene. I struggle with that too).
Like no, Xx_Depressed_Schizophrenic_Angel22_xX, being mentally ill is NOT everything someone is, and it shouldn’t be the only thing driving a person or character you’ve made up in your head. That’s not realistic at all. All people are 3 dimensional and have their own thoughts, morals, personalities, and feelings.
mynny ᰔ
I FEEL THIS SO HARD !!! i was diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder a few years ago, and people keep sexualizing it :( not just that but people keep asking me about things that most definitely do not happen, like no i dont befriend my hallucinations and no, i dont do anything weird with them. then i get told my bipolar disorder is fake because i dont instantly get attached to someone and go crazy..??? its so annoying :( and its so frustration to see these bpd princesses and bipolar princesses that have no idea how difficult it actually is to live with it.
FRUSTRATING not frustration ugh
by mynny ᰔ; ; Report
so sorry that you have to go through this :' ppl are disgusting. crazy to think that their first reflex is to ask about such things??? this is why no one takes mental health seriously, it's seen as something quirky. and absolutely insane how they have the audacity to try refuting diagnoses youve gotten from specialist.s because "you didnt act the way it should have been #tiktok said the symptoms were X and Y" like..you have every right to feel frustrated!!! u are so valid, you got this youre so strong
by fleur; ; Report
sacabamscribesis
I'd also like to partially blame fiction that romanticizes this sort of behavior and is targeted towards audiences who don't have the critical thinking skills to realize that that is WRONG and you really do not want someone crazily obsessing over you IRL ToTT
you're SOOO right!!! and it starts young too, so many games, visual novels, books and much more make it seems like a funny lovely experiment And like you say not the right audiences. thats genuinely sad..
by fleur; ; Report
Righttt esp since like the portrayal of unhealthier relationships is not necessarily a bad thing provided it's handled tactfully because in that way it can actually draw attention to these problems that need discussing...BUTTTTTTT the romanization of 'em ESP when made readily accessible to immature audiences is X00 Because like I guess if a more mature person who can delineate between fiction and reality and right vs wrong and understands nuance and like all that enjoys a questionable read here and there...it's fair game I think because they KNOW that's not an ideal to strive for or something to let slide butttttttttttttttttttttt I'd like to argue the vast majority of those reading that kinda stuff...are not nearly as mature as they should be to properly handle that sort of material X00
by sacabamscribesis; ; Report
you said it all!!! not everyone and anyone should be able to consume such media. and even while being part it, breaks and moments of respite would be needed because of how heavy it can be! just looking at certain gaming communities for instance, with how easy it is to access the numerous yandere visual novels and how it's full of immature and kids...very scary how most of them want an actual stalker who will obsess over them thinking it's 'soooo borderline'??have we lost the plot
by fleur; ; Report
Omg I'm not really in the gaming community like that so I had no idea....there's no way these kids actually want a stalker are they out of their MINDDDS omg ToTTTTTTT
by sacabamscribesis; ; Report