Update

Thank you Raspberry💙Sleuth for your wonderful advice.

It's the day after I posted the first blog about this, and almost a week since the incident actually happened. Today was the day it was supposed to go down; for Star to come clean to her GF about everything. But that's not what happened, apparently. 

It was going to go down at lunch during school, but when I saw Star and her gf in a classroom hanging out, Sylvia and her friends were there too. I whispered to Sylvia about it and she told me they hadn't said anything. The longer they wait, the harder (and worse) it's going to be. Especially since Star and Sylvia are still flirt-texting each other while Star is still in a relationship with her GF.

Sylvia and I were texting after school today and we ended up getting into an argument. I'll spare the major details, but to make a long story short I essentially told her more about how I felt: that what she did was really bad, and it felt as though she was downplaying it, that it made me question her morals, because what's stopping her from pulling something like that with me? (in the context where I am Star's gf). She basically told me that she has a right to be happy and feel sorry for herself, and that it's not a big deal. That she's still the same person she was before it happened and as much as she regrets it, she'd rather continue to hurt Star's gf than to stop being with Star (she didn't say the last part, but her actions are saying it loud and clear at the moment). The most outrageous thing imo was when she told me to "understand it from her and Star's perspective" and that I didn't have the right to judge until I did. Which is bs, may I just say. There's nothing to understand, and I know the entirety of what happened. I can't sympathize with Star because she was feeling "touch starved" or whatever. Because what she did was wrong, plain and simple. There's no excusing it no matter how you look at it, and it makes me feel sick that someone I consider one of my greatest friends is trying to make it seem like it's not that big of a deal, like Star had a right to cheat because her gf is annoying. Which I'll admit, her gf can be a bit out of touch and rude sometimes. But that does not, in any circumstance, excuse cheating. Ever. 

Sylvia keeps reminding me that she's still the same person I always knew. That she wasn't trying to homewreck and isn't some kind of serial homewrecker. If this was me a week ago, I could say that I believe that with full confidence. But now? After what she did and what she's defending? I don't know what I think about her anymore. What she's capable of. What she's willing to do for a little immediate happiness. When I told her this, she was offended that I thought that way about her. But if anything, I should be the one who's offended that she could do something so terrible to someone who she considers a friend and act like it's not a huge deal. She says she wouldn't do something like that to me, but who's to say for sure?

A very wise commenter told me that I should consider how being friends with Sylvia affects my actions, and if it's even a good idea to continue being friends with someone who brings so much drama constantly. And honestly, as much as Sylvia's been a great friend for as long as I've known her, this whole thing makes me see her in a different light. This situation may not affect me directly, but it doesn't need to for it to change the way I feel about her and Star. So I'm going to take the advice and create some distance between Sylvia and I, because every time I see her I start to feel a bit ill. 

And maybe she's right. Maybe I am overreacting a bit. But I'm not changing that to side with her. I'm sticking to the facts, and if that makes me a bad friend then sobeit.