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I think the real question is why people are evil. Someone who is bad in a relationship is also bad outside of it.There are mothers who hurt their own children; evil is the problem.
It's usually narcissism, sociopathic behavior, or people who really need therapy.

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Honestly this is such a complicated topic whit no concrete answer BUT i feel like there are things that lead to it.

First of all i think people are just inharantly assholes. Yk how people say shit like “oh a child is pure and kind bc the world hasnt curuoted it yet”? I disagree whit that on a base level. Yes a baby is NOT gonna be racist, homophobic, abilist or bigoted in general. HOWEVER people are not inhearently kind. Have you seen how selfish kids are? And well yes people usualy grow out if that and learn empathy as were still naturally empathetic, dosent change the fact its only natural that were allsow selfish. I think that selfishness leads some people to just be assholes. A lot of abusers are just plainly evil as simpe as that. The same way that leaders are allways causing wars for small shit and the same way rapist and murderers exsist and so on. Evil just exsists, and so dose kindness even tho thats getting rarerer by the day.

Secondly, mh problems. A lot of disorders cause people to be assholes. Things like NPD, BPD and other mental illnesses can cause people to act out(allsow im sorry fir using the most steriotipical ones but theyre good exsamples and i cant rember any other ones rn for some reason, and ik that if ppl go to therapy they can be kind even whit these disorders and what not). A lot of mental illnesses are caused as a trauma responce, but it dosent even have to be an illness, sometimes trauma can make people develop behaviours and complexses that make u a bad partner(like abandonment issues or somone beeing overly clingy or anger issues or whatever else). Building off the previous point- trauma can allsow change how u see relashonships. Like in my exsperince wail i havent been abused, i sent wayyy to much time online as a kid and didint realy have freands, and that has resulted me romantisising in things ik are NOT helthy, wail i dont wanna get into deeper things i can mention one- codependency. Ive exsperincedit first hand and yet i still find it romantic. Im sure that if getting abused can cause people to belive getting abused/mistreated is romantic im sure theres people that think that doing the abuse is romantic. In general mh is a very complicated topic.

I think i had a tird point but ive been thinking for awile and i CANNOT rember it for the life of me. Anyway as far as ik spacehey dosent have censors so u dont need to censor words like rape, call it what it is- rape, not grape. I hate how social media has lead us to censor words like this god i could write a rant ab this but wtv.

(Ps. sorry ab my bad spelling and gramer english isint my first language and ive genuanly been told to get checekdd for dislexsia by 2profecinols and eveyroe of my freands, and sorry if this dosent realy make sence im kinda rambling lol)

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