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Hi, I don't mean this as some sort of a pathetic sob story but I do truly ask, I don't want to go into too much detail but it does seem like things only get worse and worse, the more I check anyways the worse it ends up feeling for me personally.
Does it ever really get better?
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Someone
You just need time! Healing and waiting for good in your life is REALLY long, but it's worth the wait until everything settles down :) I'm still waiting for the best too! Wish I didn't live with my family...
BashBrainRot
It will get better, but it takes a lot of time and work. When you have spent so much in your life feeding a shame cycle it takes genuine effort to break from it, there are therapies dedicated to thought reframing to literally force your brain to jump to "There's a 50/50 chance" instead of "There's no way I can do this" And it's HARD.
Your struggle and your feelings are valid, don't think they're not. But you have to allow some whitespace in life to exist, you can't know everything, you can't fail if you never try but you also can't succeed.
You still have time, the best place to start is forceful thought challenging is what I've found. Often times a change of scenery (maybe your parents contribute to your feelings or whatever the situation may be) can be insanely helpful, but the idea of getting there can feel utterly impossible.
My advice to you, check this comment any time you feel uncertain about your future, because this is what I want you to consider: What if it goes well? What if you do so much better than you thought you would? What if this opportunity can set into motion a lot of helpful change? What if this situation will teach me something that can help me grow as a person? What if I let myself believe the people around me care about me, and nothing goes wrong? What if I allow myself to be vulnerable, and it doesn't hurt this time?
There are so many opportunities out there for you, and I know getting to them can feel impossible. But you're getting a little better every day, and more importantly you're still growing, you have time, you can still be a success story. You don't have to know how everything will go today, or hell even tomorrow, you are allowed to be kind to yourself and hold space for yourself, and you will be better for it.
My DMs are always open if you need advice or help with thought reframing like this, I don't know you but I believe that everyone is capable and has potential, the fact you WANT to get better and move forward just emphasizes the fact that you are capable of getting better. I believe in you.
Macrotten
Yes, but I've found that I've had to actively work on making things better.
silversaint
sometimes, it does objectively get better. sometimes it’s a perspective change, which is harder but can help and be well worth the work. hope you can either work through it or find someone to support you along the way.
I agree, hopefully there will be a kind shine from life to make this easier
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