being on aromantic spectrum

I recently realised I'm a demiromantic and suddenly everything makes so much sense now. like back when i realised I'm a lesbian I had the same feeling but lowkey still felt like I can't really relate to most people, even other lesbians. a lot of people talk about their dating experience, their crushes, how they can literally just go on a date with someone they barely know and idk it just made me feel so lonely, I thought I was missing out on something so important, I didn't understand why I wasn't like that and why the idea of falling for a person you don't know well is so weird to me. 

I had one friend that I would talk about this whole thing with and they said that I don't actually have to befriend and spend more time with someone to develop romantic attraction and it always left me feel so confused, I genuinely couldn't understand it. I rarely fall in love but when I do it's always my friends, sooo....

now that I know I'm on aromantic spectrum it kinda makes me feel seen and less insecure about myself. seeing other people share my experience is lowkey healing me in some way?? so if you ever questioned why we need microlables, here's why they're important :3