"can't find a gf" - no shit..

     I'm sorry but I was just scrolling through recent blogs and every page had a post with the subject along the lines of "no girls wanna be with me", wahhh wahhh boo-hoo. Have you ever thought the fact you're blogging about no girls liking you may be part of the problem? I'm all for reaching out for support, asking others for opinions, but each one of these just hit the basic, 

     "I think I'd be a good bf, girls just don't fw me"

     "I just can't find a gf, am I weird?"

     Honestly yeah, you probably are weird, but that's not the problem. Half of you are looking for a girlfriend, not a girl to love. Or let's be real... you could be a shit head. I see way too many guys these days pulling the 'no girl is interested' card, which in a sense could be true, but maybe because every girl you approach and talk to you're just thinking about getting with them. Reality check: People usually establish they begin to want a romantic presence in your life. You can't think that every girl could be the next when you walk up to them. (Let me make it clear, if ur having these experiences through dating apps and not casual interactions then that probably wasn't for you) 

     Anyway, the idea of having a girlfriend has literally taken over your brains like a parasite. A girlfriend isn't just a bitch you keep around to have fun dates with and give you attention (or if you're one of those guys who likes to give - not get - she doesn't exist for u to provide). A girlfriend  is supposed to be the girl you found that rocked your world in a way the day-to-day girls you walk past didn't. A person you took interest in after realizing her eyes crinkle when she laughs at your jokes, and you're captivated by it. You do not need a girlfriend just to not be alone, you are not meant to constantly have somebody by your side. This is YOUR life, YOU are living it. She - whoever she will be - has her own as well. You're meant to find the piece that slides in perfectly, even if there are a few shoves to get it to click, the curves match with no gaps. Not force it and get a janky puzzle, where the rooster on the tip of the barn is over in the lake. 

     Take your time, stop LOOKING, find her. Have a normal conversation every once and a while and see if a spark clicks, not speak to a girl hoping for one. There are a total of like 42-ish personalities out there, you meet a double of everyone EVERYWHERE. You'll find yours, or the one opposite to yours. The one that feels perfect. Just stop being a boyfriend when you haven't found the girl yet. Be you (no not the you that is 100% performative, tell a girl you like to fish and hate the smiths, and let her love you for it anyway.)

Okay.. rant over. I'm not sure if any of this even made sense but come on guys. Use your brains. If I can see it, I'm sure a shit ton of others will. 

    P.S: Don't take any of this personally, if I sound like an idiot than I'm probably not talking about you. But.. some of you really gotta look at yourself from somebody else's shoes. They taught you this in like 1st grade.