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HOWWWW to stop using social media??
I'm being deadass. I want to quit using social media. I mean majorily, not entirely as I still enjoy having this connection with people. But the constant scrolling and amount of adds everywhere as much as being exposed to this much of especially antitranssexual politics as a transsexual myself is ruining my life. It causes me to not only waste a lot of time which isn't unfamiliar to many but it is genuinely causing me to mentally get worse. My online presence as of in regular social media is actively harming me. So, I want to stop using it. Perhaps not spacehey, games, listening to music, imageboard websites, or watching long videos/movies but instagram, tiktok, and those alike. I also must admit despite my politics, for some time starting around summer 2023 I was almost using c.ai 24/7. Thankfully I managed to stop using that but I'm still scrolling so much.
OKAY!!! Enough whining about how ass it is. But *****howwww**** do we stop????
And I'm seriously asking for you guys' advice too. Should I just delete the apps on my smartphone? Should I stop using a smartphone and carry just a dumbphone and an mp4? I genuinely can not even trust smartphones around me to be honest. Call me a conspiracy theorist, but for some reason I feel like "smart"phones are one of the biggest things they use to make our brains sludge. And even just from my own comfort, I don't even want it near me. I thankfully have enough hobbies to not suffer fully without phones. I draw, play keyboard, study history, do sudoku, read books etc. But I can't even do those hobbies anymore. So, I'm asking anyone who might be on the same boat or saved from the boat that I am in.
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luke
So I'm in a similar position to you in terms of being trans on the internet where it feels like most people are comically evil about trans people is soul-destroying. The steps I've taken are:
- getting an old flip phone (if your country still hass 2G or 3G you may be able to run one)
- deleting most socials from my old smart phone (using it for banking, bus tickets and quick emailing)
- filling my time with no screen/minimal screen hobbies (i paint miniatures and work with leather)
- trying my best to reach out to friends when everyone is really committed to groupchats as the main way of communicating. try and find someone who will keep you in the loop
I won't say I'm the most successful at managing the lifestyle change. I've found that people aren't super accommodating of the things that I no longer do as to avoid socials. Honestly, if you're finding that you're scrolling in your free time and that you have plenty of it, I would really recommend the trying to make yourself some kind of schedule to work to where you engage in non-phone activities.
While I'm personally not that good with schedules so I will likely skip that, thanks for the other advice! I just wish to ask you though, did you ever struggle with seperating from your smartphone? Because I feel like I would.
by unemployedkun; ; Report
I definitely struggled in terms of habit-forming. The compulsion to grab it was there, but I found very quickly that if it's sat away in a drawer somewhere and I have other things in reach to spend my time doing then I don't miss it at all. When I'm doing a good job at staying away from socials, my anxiety is so minimal that it's crazy how simple it was to remedy. I don't miss my phone when it's gone; it's great
by luke; ; Report
osmis
don't do stuff that you get satisfaction from and do something you wouldn't just casually do in general
for example instead of sitting on tiktok go learn html and create a normal profile without using layouts, you don't have to succeed, it's just for the sake of it
you can even apply it on basic stuff like not eating a candy or going to sleep on time
it trains a part of your brain which is responsible for how aware you are and control over decisions, it actually shrinks overtime if you don't control ur decisions lol