another rant yay

might be a bit touchy but. people with anxious attachment will whine about how their partner was so uncaring and then never communicate. never say "hey, i need more attention." they assume that their partner is psychic or something. life isnt perfect like that. you need to communicate w/ your partner. you cant blame them for stepping over your boundaries WHEN YOU NEVER TOLD THEM. of course, this isnt all anxious attachment style lovers. its extremely admirable to push past the walls in your mind to make sure you have a healthy relationship. but theres always a small section who will go up and down how they were the victim and the evil avoidant did all the wrong. of course, both attachment styles are extremely unhealthy, but you cant be a fucking martyr when you suffocate your partner, while never communicating your needs. avoidants and anxious are the same level as bad, but one gets to cry about it have a bleeding heart because they cant find someone who will be perfect and and never ever step on their toes unless they want to comfort them for 3 hours about how they still love them. 

considering the type of people on this app, i dont think this will be recieved well, but whatever. dont really have anyone to talk about this with