scary situation

scary situation happened earlier today and i feel mostly fine about it but also a little shaken. basically i live in an apartment with my boyfriend and our best friend (it's not a poly thing she just genuinely is fine with living with a couple lol) and bestie is a bit less cautious when it comes to dealing with unwell individuals than my bf and i are. she will regularly chat with and give small amounts of food/drink to people on the street who approach her, and that's just not something that i tend to engage with beyond saying "sorry, no." i want to try not to just ignore them as an acknowledgement of their humanity, but i don't have enough trust in people to do anything else. bestie is a lot kinder than me in that regard.

however. this kindness can be taken advantage of, and it was today. he came home from getting groceries and the second she opened the door i heard a man's voice saying "excuse me," and it sounded unnervingly close. bestie seemed not to notice, so my boyfriend was like ummm there's a guy, did he follow you? and then the man starts knocking on the door kind of aggressively (bestie had already closed it behind her). and bestie, god bless him, returns to the door and asks this guy what he wants. bf and i are kind of in shock that this is being engaged with, but the guy says he wants water and bestie is like, okay, i can get that for you.

we don't have any like plastic water bottles in the house as we just use cups/tap, but bestie had a reusable water bottle she didn't like so she decides to give him water using that. she adds a bottle of orange juice, confirms that i am standing close behind her, and opens the door to give the guy the drinks. 

for the first likeee 10 seconds it's fine bc he accepts the drinks, whatever, but it goes downhill pretty quickly. the guy starts asking if he can come into the apartment, bestie says no, guy keeps asking and eventually begins to start pushing his way inside, at which point i run up and join bestie in pushing him out and closing the door. i accidentally closed the door on bestie's foot and finger numerous times in this small kerfuffle, but we eventually got the door closed and locked. the man was still there, but he wasn't making any aggressive motions or anything by this point, and he even took a sip of the fucking orange juice bestie gave him as he stood there saying weird shit like "i want to protect you" and "i hope you learned something today." 

bestie began loudly, firmly, and just a little aggressively telling the man to leave (among other things) and while he backed up closer to the entrance of our porch area (and bestie yelled "THAT'S NOT FAR ENOUGH" at him), the only thing that actually worked was when she started counting down from 10 after we threatened to call the cops. he retreated and was gone within seconds. 

this happened hours ago and obviously everything has been fine since, but we were a little shaken from the whole affair. i never would have engaged with this person, but bestie is (too?) kind, and this person clearly did not know how to behave and wasn't all there (though he did look fairly normal and well-groomed). it's just understandably scary to have to keep a stranger from entering your home in a semi-threatening manner.