1.19.26 how to set boundaries with morons

yesterday, i planned a sleepover with 2 of my friends. they're the only 2 in the friend group i didn't consider overly immature and i actually got along with both of them quite well. our plan was to hang out at my house for a day, and then the next day, go to the movie theaters.my first friend, call her friend 1, got dropped off early because her parents had stuff to do. we had a good 1 on 1 time but i will admit, she was mostly only playing her game instead of talking to me. i hate when people do that. when people come over to MY house to play THEIR game and not talk to ME, the person whose house you've gone to!!! but i brushed it off because i was also playing a game. about 5 hours later, we picked up my other friend. call her friend 2. when we picked friend 2 up, we wanted to show her this show on youtube me and friend 1 really liked. i was really excited to show her. i played it and immediately friend 2 talks over the show and scrolls on tiktok on her phone with her volume nearly all the way up. friend 1 doesn't seem to mind this. i do.

i turn the show off and put on some other videos i enjoy. neither of them cared. they both talked over the videos i put on constantly and it was overwhelming me and i honestly felt disrespected. i turned off the videos once more. but, after a while, friend 1 told me to put on this specific youtube video. i listened, and they actually watched it. i wasn't mad that they were unintentionally rude enough to not pay attention when i was showing them something i liked, but then paid attention when i put on something they like (i'm a little bit upset about it now) because i enjoyed the video as well.

i stopped playing videos for a while due to me slowly realizing they just talked over most videos i put on. friend 2 starts begging me to play another youtube video of her chosing. i say 'no, you talk over the videos i put on'. she starts persuading me hardcore to put it on, saying 'please' multiple times and not shutting up, even when friend 1 jokingly-half-seriously tells friend 2 about respecting my boundaries. friend 2 doesn't listen. i then yell something i really regret.

i yell out, 'YOU'RE GONNA BE A RAPIST.'

i deeply regret this choice of wording now, and my volume. my words make friend 2 uncomfortable and i scare friend 1 with my volume. we sit in silence for a while until friend 1 lightens up the mood again. i apologize to friend 2 and continue to apologize to her, because i am truly sorry, i was overwhelmed and lashed out. she seemed to forgive me.

next day, we went to the movie theater. we sat down and friend 1 and friend 2 were talking during the ads before the movie. i didn't mind this at all, because everyone talks during the ads. but the movie plays, and they're still talking. i don't try to tell them to stop because i still feel bad about yesterday, but i do tell them to shut up twice. both times fall on deaf ears. i hardly enjoyed the movie because of their constant chattering. even at a fucking movie theater, these twits won't shut up.

the movie ends. on the car ride home, friend 1 brings up something about me being nice, i don't remember the exact context. friend 1 then follows it up with 'well, you're nice to me.' friend 2, not apart of the conversation, chimes in to remind me of my outburst yesterday. this makes me really upset. i understand fully what i said was wrong, but being reminded of it makes me feel like a bad person, even when i apologize again when she brought it up.

they go home. at this point im very tired and upset. an hour ago, i messaged friend 1 (friend 2 is leaving me on delivered, i don't know if she's mad at me or busy. it is night time where i live) and told her about friend 2's disrespect and how i need to set boundaries. friend 1 doesn't take me seriously, no 'oh i'm sorry to hear that!' no 'i agree! you should tell friend 2!' nothing like that. she makes one joke about keeping friend 2 in a cage and leaves it as that, no further support. did i mention friend 1 has a crush on friend 2? if they get into a relationship, i'm frankly gonna be really pissed. i tell friend 1 all the time this isn't a good idea, but friend 1 says she 'likes toxic women'??? i'm really upset about this whole thing. i doubt anyone will read this in full, but if someone does, can you give me advice?