I cant believe the idea that yaoi is ONLY done and consumed by women. There's just no way

So obv, im gonna talk abt some nsfw topics rn, so if u dont like that dont read it. 

I know yaoi was Invented so women can read love stories without having to see the gender power dynamics and stereotypes in straight romance. I mean old yaoi is a pretty big indicator for that 💀 But out of all the works, and mangas and stuff that people did, it can be very varied in the subject. Not all of them have a feminine bottom, or any weird stuff that yaoi is associated with. 

I feel like people just don't read or search enough to actually realize its varied. They look at some popular story and its weird and abusive and think all yaoi shit is like that. 

They always say, oh but bara exists, thats made by gay men for gay men. Uhh, no? Its for gay men who like muscly, beefcake type men. They do realize many gay men like twinks, right? How are u gonna sit here and say all gay men would like bara, like everyone has the same preference?? I feel like most people are very close minded on human attraction and just think in boxes. They think of one idea and nothing else exists for them. At first it was "All gay relationships have a masc and fem partner in them" and now its suddenly "all gay relationships are between 2 hunky dudes", like bro thats NOT how it works. Do they know that? I feel like everyone is just running their mouth on what type of gay porn comic is more ethical. Have they ever seen gay porn tho?? Have they seen the ammount of masc and twink stuff? Or even twink and twink stuff? You gonna sit here and tell me gay men watch that but wont read a yaoi with 2 twinks fucking each other. Are we deadass? 

Now, im not a gay man myself, im just a woman. A bisexual one, but still. And I like twinks, I like bottoms, I like cute people. Thats why im reading ts from time to time. Bcs its hard to find straight romance with the guy being the bottom, or even being submissive. And if there is, I'll be too focused on if the woman is written right or not, and just be frustrated instead. I dont think uhh...People should really villanize yaoi as much as they do. Bcs what if theres gay men out there who enjoy it? What if people can find they like something by reading that shit? Is every gay guy ever just supposed to read bara (which BTW is also just as, if not more fetishizing of gay men or men in general in my opinion)? Is every gay porn media supposed to be manly men that never talk abt feelings and just fuck or whatever goes on in those stories? Oh and speaking of fetishizing, that argument makes no fucking sense. Its porn. Its sex. Everything is a fetish there. How do u know who is gonna read and be turned on by that story anyway? 

Idk what goes in the head of a straight woman while reading gay stuff, tho I dont think my bisexuality necessarily makes me like twinks, so I cant say for sure?? I think they just like whoever is the top or dominant guy in the story? And focus more on dick rather than ass, but idk, whatever man. I think uhh, there's 2 types of straight people that talk abt yaoi. The ones that like it for whatever reason they like it for, and the ones that say yaoi is gross and fetishizing and all that bad stuff bla bla bla, Idk maybe heard abt it from somewhere or heard some gay people say they dont like it so now they're trying to be allies. 

Point is, I geniunely dont believe its true, that only women write yaoi and only women consume yaoi. And that all gay men would rather read bara instead. This feels like such a dumb fucking internet argument and I feel like im right, but I dont see anyone agreeing with me, so maybe im wrong who knows. All i know is that I would rather read some toxic ass yaoi that I hate than a popular straight romance bcs I just cant find myself in there. I cant bro. I dont think its cause im bisexual, I think its just what I am regardless, I feel like a gay dude that wants to be in a gay like relationship with a dude. If u know what I mean. I just dont feel like a girl, or however a girl is supposed to be ig in a relationship. And no im not trans, im just me, i just wanna act like a dude and have a relationship like we're both boys. Ik what ur thinking, femdom exists, but I cant find myself in that at all. Sure they can peg and dom dudes all day long but they're still pretty, feminine women. And im just not that. 

Anyway I was gonna make this post just to find out if any gay guy enjoys yaoi but i started rambling. Mb gng