I made a bulletin about this a bit ago and reading everyone’s replies honestly helped me put things into words, so I wanted to talk about it a little more clearly here. So I’ve been having a gender crisis for about a week in a half, and honestly? It’s driving me a little crazy.
Ik that mentally and physically I was born a girl, but lately that doesn’t feel like the full story anymore. Right now, I genuinely don’t care about my gender or how people see me. I found out there’s actually a term for that: gender apathetic
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Meaning: You don’t care about your gender or how people perceive it. Gender isn’t a central part of your identity right now. Using any/all pronouns!!
My Gender Experience The Past 5 Years:
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But I'm not 100% fully sure abt it just yet... Over time, aka the last four years, I've identified as a lot of different things/different pronouns.
Demi-Girl: Partially identifying as girl using She/They pronouns
Non-Binary: My gender didn’t feel strictly male or female; used he/she or they/them
Trans / Transmasc FTM: For a short time, I felt out of touch with being female because of personal body issues; used he/they or he/it
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Gender-Fluid: My gender would shift between agender, nonbinary, demi-girl/demi-boy, or sometimes transmasc; used they/it, they/them, he/him, he/they, she/they, and ze/zim/zem
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After all that, I kind of just said “screw it” and went back to calling myself a girl because that’s what I was born as… but if I’m being honest, I still don’t really know. In my bulletin, a lot of people shared experiences that really resonated with me, especially the idea that gender doesn’t need to be overanalyzed and that it’s okay to just exist without forcing a label. That reassurance helped me with my decision! Because of that, I’m not rushing myself right now; I’m sticking with any/all pronouns and giving myself the time and space to see what feels right without pressure.
Thank you all so much for being kind and understanding, it genuinely means a lot 🫶 ur all so kiinddd :33 Feel free to give your thoughts and any advice, I'll read all replies to each on! :D
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Rei Glitxh ( ꩜ ᯅ ꩜;)
I made this like 20-something days ago, but I forgot to mention that during my genderfluid experience, I also experienced a shift between being Genderfaun and Girlflux, using he/she, they/he, he/him, or at one point neopronouns like ze/zem (but at the time i was uncomfy with neos but i started with those!!! (ᵕ—ᴗ—)
𓎟𓎟 Kai 𝜗𝜚
I’ve gone through that process before and it really does make u confused- as u know, I’m nonbinary, and use he/him n they/them pronouns. And in the past, if u remember from our discord times, I’ve gone from, female, demi-girl, transmasc, and now nonbinary. But over time, with research and help from many many ppl u got this!! :3 (if u want we can experiment with diff pronouns n identities to make u feel more comfy :3)