Love and understanding: what is love?

I just watched a YouTube video by oliSUNvia that explored the idea of understanding as love. The idea was one that they had come across online, with people expressing that while it is easy for someone to say they love someone, its not easy to be understood. The video discussed love as understanding, understanding above love, and if it is possible yo truly understand a person who is ever changing, and therefore possible to ever love them continuously. This topic was extremely interesting to me as someone who once wrote " more than love, im longing to be understood". But what does it mean to understand a person? The video gave two different views. One, understanding in an intellectual way by knowing various facts about a person to build an overall knowing of them. Two, being able to understand the different positive and negative aspects of a person and seeing them in a charitable light. When I wrote that I wanted to be understood, I was probably thinking something closer to the second. But more than just being seen charitably, I wanted the essence of my person to be seen. I feel that its always been hard for me to open myself up to others fully, or feel that I am getting across authentically who I am or my intentions. So I wanted someone that I felt understood me, and who I understood so that we could find comfort in each other. But is it even truly possible to understand a person completely? I think probably not. And its not a bad thing. People are complex, constantly changing beings that have limited ways to communicate the rich inner worlds that every single one of us have. The video talked about this idea as why some think that love have to fail in the end then. If we think of love as understanding and people are constantly changing then love can't win. Me and OliSUNvia disagree with that idea though. I think there's a reason that id wrote love and understanding as separate things before, cause to me they are. Sure you can understand someone you love deeper than others, or be more understanding towards their faults, but I feel that thats more a result of love then love entirely. As the OliSUNvia kinda explores, understanding can kind of stagnant if you feel you know everything about a person, but both people and love aren't stagnant things. An alternative view i like is that when you love someone, youre curious about them. Now I dont wanna claim love is curiosity, its like understanding in being a symptom but one with more flexibility than understanding. If you love someone, you are curious about them, their life, their feelings and interest. Curiosity like love is boundless, and if you stay curious about a person you can love them through changes. I may not understand you, but I want to. Thats a loving idea to me.