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I feel like the way people (atleast those in my life) view modern friendship is just so...backwards?? Like what do you mean "you dont owe them anything"?. In my opinion iof you have an emotional connection or have known someone for a long time OR resepct them- the least you can do is give them and the friendship the resepct it deserves?
I feel like alot of modern friendship is built on empty promises, talking shit behind their back and j straight up being a rude person. or maybe ive just been surrounded by the wrong kinda people lmaooo. But w that being said, like im getting fed up w the behaviours of some people in my life lol. how are you gonna activley make plans right in front of ME- and not invite me ?? how can anyone see that as not being rude-it srsly makes shit so awks man. Not to mention frieds who will leave u to go home alone at all hours in the night n not care ??
I feel like i see alot of people complain nowadays that their friends have ghosted them , dropped them for no reason or activley ignore/leave them out of things. is this something everyonr j goes through? or is it j the way of friendships nowadays?
idk maybe im just surrounded by messed up ppl or maybe its just the way is it nowadays.
let me escape from the hell hole that is modern day friendships x.
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goiaba
as someone who is the loyal friend, this hurts me SO MUCH. like, how are you telling me you will NOT stop talking with someone who hurt me and will engage with them in front of me? even more, if you respect our friendship so much, how do you expect me to not be sad when you don't invite me or even communicate about events that are important to you? i don't want to be just someone who you vent to!
i think this is because people cannot have a conversation between people anymore, you know what i mean? people don't even respond, they don't link with what you are talking, they are just speaking over what you said about their personal experience.
i saw a little video about a girl who was like, 8? and she said that you need to link with people's talking. she gave the example: "if someone says i went to the movies today!", if you say "it's been weeks since i got to the movies!" you're not even linking to them, you're just saying something about the same topic. sometimes people don't even talk about the same topic and say "and i got to the supermarket". well, that's when it comes to linking: what about "really? what movie did you watched? was the popcorn good?"
people are missing the basic of the life that is the small talks, the silly ones, about silly things! and it's hard to not be "sucked" into that because somehow if you don't feel listened, you start to "vent" everything that happened in your life to the first person you see. it's like a cicle?
do you think that makes sense? would love to hear your thoughts... sorry for the long text :/
Rodelf
It’s mostly a lack of honesty ,and realization of them actually hurting their close friends..unless they never seen them as friends and just let them be there as a background character, but it seems this generation is trying to win an imaginary race and they got rid of all emotions to win that race hurting everyone in the process just to win something
wait u cracked the code lmaooo. ur so right i feel like its so competitive nowadays w how ur viewed socially, politcally , ur clothes ur online persona etc etc its litreslly a clusterfuck of "how do i become the best in every aspect of" atleast thats the way i feel when i see some friends priortise their insta posts or their apperance - like ive had friends be two hours late to a casual hang cb they waned to priorise how they lloked over their friend waiting for them lmao also the whole not liking someones insta posts or suporing ur friends wins etc etc if that makes sense lol
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Ye makes total sense , but it shows that they didn’t mature yet or reality didn’t hit them yet not realizing their actions have consequences, I predict these ppl after a while will be left alone to realize their mistakes and try to rebuild their life again on the right course or gonna be a drama queens of “no body likes me no body respect what I do “type shit and continue in their behaviors just in a new face , they are harming themselves first before harming anyone else , and the fact they are prioritizing social media appearances and not being supportive based on looks….that’s a big ass red flag bro 0-0 i suggest stepping away from these type of ppl for ur own sanity
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RunningWithAnAfro
Its been that way since the dawn of time. Hardly anyone care for friendships. Soon as they get a BF/GF they drop their friends.
see yes i agree but in my life alot of these friends r single n its j the way they are lmfaoo n i know others who have been treated similarly n their firends r single i j feel like theirs a rise in the behaviour nowadays yk
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