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i am not going to attack either side I'm just telling it like it is, of course — it will always be difficult for a mentally ill person some illnesses, such as depression, are not ‘curable you learn to live with them, and it's not always easy there are moments when it all comes back, and sometimes you have no control over it
but have you ever wondered how the people around them feel?
helplessness, fear, constant stress
add to that the fact that these days everyone has some unresolved trauma, and you can conclude that both sides suffer equally, for example in a friendship and of course, there will be people who say, "If their disorder bothers you, why do you hang out with them?
really? it doesn't work that way
if you love someone, should you leave them? of course not
or if you are friends with someone, that person is important to you, and you will distance yourself from them because you don't like the fact that they are mentally ill?
NO
guys, really?
how can you say that?
people, whether in the family or in the environment of a mentally ill person, do not think about distancing themselves
of course, they feel overwhelmed and often have enough - let's say it louder
they often want to help such a person even at the expense of themselves it is very easy to lose yourself in this and feel guilty that you feel tired and fed up
but this is a natural reaction
we cannot burden ourselves with other people's problems we cannot take them on ourselves we have to set boundaries, and of course I know it's not that easy each of us has ‘something’ we struggle with every day, but we have to keep that in mind - THESE ARE NOT OUR PROBLEMS WE HAVE NO REAL INFLUENCE ON THEM
and of course, we can help guide a mentally ill person and try to persuade them to undergo therapy, but... IT DEPENDS ONLY ON THEM AND THEIR WILL, BECAUSE ONLY THEY CAN REALLY INFLUENCE THEMSELVES.
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⤷ ゛SceneNoob ˎˊ˗
I had 1 relationship with a mentally ill person over the course of the life. And I was the one to end things, since they tried to give me UNPRESCRIPTED cannibis (take in mind we’re in ireland, recreational drugs are NOT allowed unless for medical reason) and crossed multiple boundaries, both sexually and physically. Now, i’m not saying it’s rape, I did consent however, I specifically stated not to do this or not to do that, but they didn’t listen. I do wish they get better and I hope that they will try to stop crossing boundaries, mentally ill or not:)
becky
As a mentally ill person, I had a boyfriend between August and November 2025. I completely understand what you mean. I had many episodes and was depressed all the time, and I realized he was already exhausted from my breakdowns. I ended things with him for his own good. I had episodes where I would curse him out, not respond to him for days, and I even tried to throw myself in front of a car in front of him (I also went through drug addiction and was being sexually abused at the time). So I understand because I've been on both sides and I understand how exhausting it really is. Nowadays I'm still an addict, but I don't get into relationships anymore for my own good and my partner's. (Nowadays, he and I are friends because we studied together.)
Sai
I’ve dated three people with mental illnesses over the course of my life, and each time, I was the one who ended things. There comes a point when you have to set boundaries, and just because someone is struggling doesn’t mean they can ignore those lines. Self-respect comes first, never sacrifice your own mental well-being to protect someone else’s. Surround yourself with positive influences.
mOnsTArrr
Hace un tiempo tuve una clase de " relación " realmente yo nunca lo quise formalizar nisiquiera estoy seguro de aver estado enamorada de esta persona o solo era un capricho, aún así lo quería mucho y comprendía lo que pasaba tenía algunas enfermedades aparte de mentales físicas y de las razones por las que me dijo que yo le empeze a gustar fue porque yo la seguí tratando como una persona normal apesar de saber las condiciones que tenía.
No estoy fuera de esto según mi psicólogo tengo tendencias al border line y no lo dudo pero lo que tenía esta persona lo hizo internarse en psiquiátrico por verme con otra persona ( apesar de que lo nuestro jamás fue formal ).
Todo termino muy mal no entraré en detalles porque no tiene mucho que ver pero antes de que todo se fuera al carajo una amiga de ambos me mandó un panel de hearstoper no se cómo se escriba una disculpa pero bueno el manga de Nick y Charlie donde creo que era a Nick al que le decían " el amor no puede curar una enfermedad mental " me callo como balde de agua yo sabía que no lo podía curar creo que ya dejé el complejo de salvador pero yo lo había tratado tan normal siempre que creo que me olvide que realmente tenía problemas mucho más fuertes de lo que yo podría entender aún así eso no justifica varias cosas que hizo.
mOnsTArrr
Hace un tiempo tuve una clase de " relación " realmente yo nunca lo quise formalizar nisiquiera estoy seguro de aver estado enamorada de esta persona o solo era un capricho, aún así lo quería mucho y comprendía lo que pasaba tenía algunas enfermedades aparte de mentales físicas y de las razones por las que me dijo que yo le empeze a gustar fue porque yo la seguí tratando como una persona normal apesar de saber las condiciones que tenía.
No estoy fuera de esto según mi psicólogo tengo tendencias al border line y no lo dudo pero lo que tenía esta persona lo hizo internarse en psiquiátrico por verme con otra persona ( apesar de que lo nuestro jamás fue formal ).
Todo termino muy mal no entraré en detalles porque no tiene mucho que ver pero antes de que todo se fuera al carajo una amiga de ambos me mandó un panel de hearstoper no se cómo se escriba una disculpa pero bueno el manga de Nick y Charlie donde creo que era a Nick al que le decían " el amor no puede curar una enfermedad mental " me callo como balde de agua yo sabía que no lo podía curar creo que ya dejé el complejo de salvador pero yo lo había tratado tan normal siempre que creo que me olvide que realmente tenía problemas mucho más fuertes de lo que yo podría entender aún así eso no justifica varias cosas que hizo.
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THIIIS!! As a person who struggles with mental health for a bout a while now I tend to think I constantly feel like I’m burdening them or and don’t give them the space they need so it’s nice to see people who don’t blame sides when it comes to forming relationships and both have to put effort an stuff :)
Alice :D
I am always that one friend that is always beside my friends who feel miserable, it doesn't even have to be a mental condition or smth. Many of my friends have gone through an awful period of their life and I were beside them. Genuinely I don't mind at all, I actually want to help them and it doesn't exhaust me when they come to me for comfort or just to listen. No, I never even think about leaving them in that state. It gets exhausting and annoying when a person constantly needs attention and reassurance. It doesn't even feels like they want to help themeselves. All they do is complain and complain and do nothing about it. It really pisses me off, why do you even ask for support when you don't want to help yourself? Yes we all have moments when we want to complain. But I am talking about constant complaining. Always needing to complain and that's annoying. Maybe I am not understanding something, maybe I am not mature enough, but it is annoying when people ask for comfort, advice. And when I give them they're like "oh I already did it and it didn't help me I am so useless" like seriously sometimes that sound even selfish. They don't even think how do they make people feel.
OMG THIS. i relate to this sm i completly understand you
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