Trans boys

what i've noticed is that trans guys often get stamped with things like ''soft boy'' (or soft boi), twink, femboy' etc. no matter how we look or what we might be comfortable with. but when a trans man ACTUALLY calls himself a twink or a femboy it's all "oh so you're fake then? you're a fake trans guy. you're actually just a girl cause why else would you wanna look like that?" like...uh.. we just can't win to yall, can we?