Kids- rant

I’m genuinely tired of my parents and family constantly telling me that I’ll “change my mind” about having children. I’m 16, I’m in a relationship, and both my boyfriend and I are very sure that we don’t want kids. Especially babies they stress us out, overwhelm us, and we get frustrated very easily. We’re also sensitive to things like bodily fluids, noise, and constant physical contact, which already makes the idea of childcare extremely unappealing.

On top of that, pregnancy and childbirth are a huge reason for me. I don’t want to go through that pain, the physical trauma, or the permanent changes to my body. I want to stay healthy, confident, and comfortable in my own body. People keep telling me that the pain is “worth it,” but that’s a subjective opinion not a universal truth.

What they also ignore is how demanding parenthood actually is. Raising a child takes years of constant effort, money, emotional energy, and responsibility. It often puts enormous strain on relationships because both parents are exhausted and have little time for each other. Children are expensive, require nonstop supervision, and need to be taught absolutely everything from scratch.

I also know myself. I value my belongings, my personal space, and my freedom. I’ve seen how children behave including how I and my friends acted when we were younger breaking things, hiding mistakes, and not understanding consequences. That lifestyle simply doesn’t align with who I am.

Motherhood doesn’t speak to me at all. What I want is a healthy, stable romantic relationship with my future husband, time and energy for my career, and the freedom to live my life on my own terms. That choice should be respected, not dismissed as a phase.