lets talk about mean girls.

im gonna start this by clearing up the obvious- some of these people are ragebait. im not gonna name names, but i will say- if someone manages to get to the top blogs multiple times in the same few days, they're most likely ragebait (and effective ragebait at that). i did make a blog post talking about some ragebait accounts on here, but unfortunately for every person who pretends to be a mean girl for the thrill of it, there's people who are unironically like that. so i think it might be time for a little chat about the recent idolization of mean girl behavior. 

i cant tell when it started happening, but for the last year or so there's been a blatant rise in people treating catty mean behavior as "iconic" or "cunty." it isnt. if you're going to take shots at people without any valid reason just because you think it's cool, you're just a bully. the fact that it's seen as "iconic diva behavior" now doesnt mean it isnt still bullying. i think a lot of these people sat down and watched the movie mean girls- a film where the whole message was that at the end of the day, almost every girl growing up is some variant of mean girl because the patriarchy pits us against each other, and we should make efforts to support each other instead of tearing each other apart- and somehow took away the exact opposite idea that "everyone is a mean girl so it's okay that you're one too!!" and fucking ran with it. theres a lot of people who look at characters they like and replicate the traits and behaviors of those characters they find admirable, but i dont see the appeal in looking at every generic mean popular girl from an early 2000s sitcom and replicating behaviors that are very obviously written to be bad.

a point ive seen argued is that "people arent actually mean girls, people just say they are to compensate for their own insecurities," and i promise you that's entirely fucking false. why would anyone envy the fact that you're a discount bin regina george wannabe who thinks being mean and funny is a personality trait. nobody is jealous of the fact that you think messing with quiet/neurodivergent kids is the peak of comedy. nobody is jealous of the fact that you cant make a half decent point in a conversation without being unnecessarily condescending towards the other person. i can promise you this: nobody is jealous of you guys, and if anything, the belief that "mean girls arent real, people are just jealous" is just your way of compensating for the fact that you cant handle being called out on your behavior- because the most interesting thing about mean girls is that they always switch their tune when the ball isnt in their court anymore. 

mean girls always act confident untill you match their energy. you'll give them the same energy and suddenly theyre crying about how you're being so rude to them like they didnt just tell you to take a nice swan dive into the grand canyon over you having a hobby. all of a sudden it was "just a joke" and they were "just messing with you-" which is bullshit, because if you weren't getting your shit read to filth you wouldnt feel the need to backtrack at all. they can always dish it out, but as soon as it's their turn to take it, they're the number one advocates against bullying. like arent you the day one offenders?? please stop pretending you care about bullying being a problem, because what you really care about is keeping the status quo where you bully other people without consequence. sure, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, but the fact that you were ripping out eyes to begin with is the problem, not the person who showed you how it feels. 

at the end of the day, if you're a mean girl, i want you to know that you arent the iconic diva you think you are. just because your friends hype up your petty and mean behavior doesnt mean that behavior is cool- it's stillpetty and mean. when i say this last part, i mean it from the most honest part of my heart: if you idolize the idea of being a mean girl at all, you are not serving cunt- you just are one.