1 year on SpaceHey: Thoughts.

This is just a random post about the things i think about this site after being active for a year (and a couple of months). these are just thoughts and issues i see on the site, some of you might agree, some might disagree. this post isn't intended to hate on anyone or harass people, it's just things that go through my mind



-1
there's gore, there's a lot of gore. why? idk, people 'like' that stuff. there's been a lot of regulations to it, especially during the past couple of months. but still, there's plenty of it and that's not only weird but also disgusting imo

-2
you can always add people as friends, but most never talk back. i have about 40 friends added, not a lot, but i only follow people with similar or same interests as me and that don't seem weird or are waaay above my age. out of the like 20 i've sent message to, only 7 replied. and then comes the next issue

-3
people abandon/forget this site easily. it didn't happen to me because previously i used damedanespace since 2022 or so before finding this site. but ALL of those 7 individuals i mentioned never got connected again and it's been months. i get it, most people use this on their computer/laptop's browser and don't install the mobile app so they forget, but it's still kinda sad. I wouldn't be surprised if all of my added friends didn't even see this post. heck, i'm probably typing this for myself

-4 (i can't believe this one)
i didn't think there'd be so many of these, but there's genuinly a lot of people that use this site to date. i guess you can do that? it's not really the ideal platform to do so, there's definitely other platforms that are strictly dedicated to that but i guess it's easier to find people with the same interests around here. idk. 

-5
hypersensible users. what do i mean by this? the people that have a lot of TWs or DNI points in their profiles. Not the people that say "if you're above/below X then DNI", "if you're Y then DNI", or "If you like Z then DNI". That's fine, respectable even. But when i see a list of like 20 or so sensibilities and stuff? that's a DNI for me. There's things that you shouldn't just out-right tell people, it's things you learn throughout conversations. Stating your pronouns, gender, age and whatever is completely fine! but if don't put your entire mental illnesses and the background behind them. I, for example, have (diagnosed) chronical anxiety, is that something i put in my profile? no, because i don't feel like it's necessary and i'll only tell people who actually care and i trust

-6
friend-browsing system. this is something that i just think is a personal preference, but i also see why it's not implemented. basicly when you browse for new friends you're probably mostly or only gonna see new users. imo, that's ass. i remember damedanespace had a button to go to a random user's profile, and that was cool. but i also see why it's not implemented, as i said this site has TONS of abandoned accounts, so clicking that button would just be like "Come see a grave!" type of thing. however this could be fixed if you only were taken to currently-online users

-7
the (incredibly) wide spectrum of users. this isn't an issue, it's just kinda surprising how you can see profiles of people in their 30s or 40s who were previously users of the original MS and other online friend sites of the early 2000s, and, on the other hand, you can have teenagers and young adults who want to experience the vibe of what it was to be able to customize your own social media profile (almost) however you wanted. that's cool. and also the wider variety of interests of different users, classical novels/mangas, horrorcore/cutecore, rock/jazz, etc

-8
it doesn't really feel like a social media. it is a social media, there's no doubt on that. but clicking a button to "add a friend" isn't the same as making an actual friend. people might leave a comment or two on each other's profiles and that's about it, no commenting on blogs, no IMs, no nothing. this isn't something i speak about just myself, two of my IRL friends experienced the same and both of them eventually left the site because no one talked or replied to messages. worst part? they looked like genuinly cool people with mutual interests for them.

-9
lack of engament. i don't mean this to sound "SpaceHey sucks, i'm going to IG reels"... but it's kinda like that. you don't have much else to do expect look at other people's profiles and wait for a reply or be accepted as a friend, you don't have enough engament to stay and you eventually close the tab/app, and eventually forget about your account as a whole! is there a way to fix this? not really, at least not while maintaining the old school vibe the site intends to bring or without causing the site to be uploaded with unfiltered content. back in the day it wasn't an issue because our brains weren't glued to screens for an entire year because of a lockdown and were forced to consume fast-media content to forget that there was a virus that was keeping you locked inside, plus short-form content as a whole didn't exist, nor did content farms

-10 <--- This one needs the most attention.
"proshippers" infestation. what is a proshipper? someone who has a headcannon about two characters that are not cannonically together being together. there's nothing wrong with that, but then you have "proshippers", the kind that ship those characters in 4bus1v3, 1nc3stu0s, p3d0ph1ll1c ways. i've seen WAY too many of them on this site. i hate them, just as any normal person should. there's a really good blog about this on the "blogs" tab, go check it out. but i'm gonna say this: SpaceHey needs A LOT more regulations and a bigger moderation team. this site is intended for people 13+, but of course there's gonna be even younger people playing up their ages to come over. or worse, people DOWNPLAYING their ages.






that's about it. it's a huge rant, i know and i'm sorry for it and i'm also sorry if you were offended by any of these points. i re-iterate my first statement: these are just thoughts and issues i see on the site, some of you might agree, some might disagree. this post isn't intended to hate on anyone or harass people, it's just things that go through my mind.

thanks for reading i guess