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I keep running into "adults" who were cool in their early 20s and even teen years when I was a teenager. Then one day, they do this "buckle down" bit and get a boring job, in a boring town, to a boring wife or husband.
Friend 1 - I've known her since I was 5 and she was 6; she's 34, and I'm 33. She used to go out all the time with her friends, have fun, didn't care about religion, didn't do drugs, but she was fun to be around. Now? She's a Christian Scout-Scoccor mom... ew. All 3 of those things are gross. But she's still somewhat cool. She doesn't judge me on things, and she's the only person I know who literally doesn't see my personal life and work life as 1, like a lot of people seem to do
Friend 2 - I dropped him previously, which is a bummer because his mom and my mom are besties. He he also a year older than me. The reason it sucks is that he was actually genuinely a cool kid growing up. What happened was that he got this wife, got her pregnant, and refused to let his mom see his son. Come to find out, it's all the wife's doing, and no one likes this woman. Everyone says she's a controlling bitch. Not honestly sure why. He's HUGE and letting this little woman take complete control of him. I know this guy WELL, and he was never like this. No idea what happened, and I do miss him. But he also became SUPER fuckin boring. Funny enough, his little brother is at least cool. I talk to him sometimes.
I meet people like them all the time who were once someone, but now they are another person, plugged into the matrix. They do their boring little job, go to their boring little home with the picture of a tree in the kitchen, and eat boring food, and then watch the same 4 shows on Netflix and keep saying things like, "I should watch more shows," but you dont. Anime scares them; doing anything outside their realm of boring scares them.
let me sigh... WELP at least I dont have kids :D
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♡ jovi 🐹
personally i think with the state of the world its easy to get beaten down and just. settle. everything is so expensive these days, nothing is stable, if you arent financially secure its easier to just stay home, take care of the necessities, and thats it. its depressing and i think it says more about the world than these people as individuals
of course i dont know them personally so i could be way off base. its just a general observation
As I said in the last reply, sure, but you can do a LOT of fun things for cheap. Take DND for instance, most average adults with jobs have at least $50 to spare, hell, you can PRINT a DND book for cheap and learn to play. Everything you need, you can either get for nothing and use apps or get everything super cheap. Even then, dice aren't expensive. Pens, papers, go nuts.
THIS IS ONLY AN EXAMPLE OF CHEAP FUN.
But people out there refuse to do anything fun at all, and I think they are afraid to do "fun" things at all because they think that it's going to "ruin" their lives or something stupid.
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Miixue
Life isnt all about doing crazy things, having an unstable routine etc. Most people settle down because their life gets easier. They dont have only themselves to live for. They want peace. Not everyone is like this, and there is no right or wrong way to lead your life, but there is no need to be judgemental to others for wanting a life that appeals to most. There is a reason why that is.
Sure and I get that but they turn from "fun to boring" real fast vs still having some of their hobbies. These ate the same people who say "I left all that behind because it's childish to like X" and its just a hobby at best. I'm not saying you can't settle down, I'm saying that people take 1 path to life and that's it. No hobbies, no fun, just boring. You can have fun, have kids, go places easily all the time.
I go to cons when I can and I see parents there with their kids. I've had conversations with them and a lot of parents say, "Oh this is our disney land, we go yearly and do a lot of fun activities through the years" which shows you can still have fun. I'm talking about the people who drop everything fun at all. Just become another NPC in life.
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Interests can change fast. When you have kids, you stop being a priority in your life. Your child is. Often people stop having time for themselves, their values change, their outlook on life may change drastically very fast. Self destructive tendencies (drinking, having a messy sleep schedule, etc) may stop. They might want to be near people with similar values to them/a similar lifestyle (eg : couples with children). If you arent in that stage of life (and you dont ever need to achieve it), you may never understand it. But, to some, that "npc life" is fulfilling.
by Miixue; ; Report
I dont see it as a "stage of life."
I see it as a "I let myself become something else" situation. I guess to me, "Stage of life" doesn't make sense. But to some extent, I understand what you mean, regardless. I think that people often see children, work, and different aspects of life as a 1 way street when there are plenty of things to do. They wore themselves down to the point that they couldn't focus on other things because they put so much stress into things, but they could; they just don't want to.
As my dad would tell me, "It's not that you can't, you just don't want to." Which in itself makes a whole lot of sense.
Most people don't JUST have kids cause they want them. You know who has the most kids? People having sex without protection cause "I don't like the way a condom feels!" If that's the case, don't have sex or choose another option, or get yourself fixed/snipped. Then don't worry about it. I don't have kids, and honestly, I'm so damn glad.
That's not to say having children is bad; that's to say that I like living my life child-free.
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I think that living childfree is honestly very respectable. Too many people have children due to social pressure, or as you have said, because they just dont care. Personally i want to have them in the future, but i also recognise that i will not have any more "me time", less money for the things i want, and wayy less sleep. I'll probably end up npc as you say, lol. but hey, you've got to accept these things sometimes.
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Does some degree I look at it as being plugged back into the matrix. So many people they never really were out of it but people like me who want our free time, we want to do our own thing, we don't have children and we're capable of running around and doing our own thing but the minute that those kind of things happen It feels like I hate to sound selfish but you don't get any of that stuff back. Not until your children are old enough to run off to friends house or be at school for the day.
But I also don't think it's a bad thing fully. I do think that to some extent if it makes you happy then I guess that's what matters.
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