doing things for myself vs other people

i cant help but notice that, lately, everytime i do something, i do it in hopes of someone noticing. i never do anything for my own happiness or pleasure. i only do things for the attention of other people. 

im sure this is normal and that a lot of people act this way. i just feel so bad about it. no matter all the self-help media about self-love that i consume, i just cant seem to do anything to show love to myself. i know i love myself, but i dont act like i do :p