𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐨 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠

Something I noticed long after watching Guillermo del Toro's Frankenstein is that many women are very attracted to Frankenstein's monster. This got me wondering why so many women are drawn to "monster romance." And while there isn't a single reason, there are some possible explanations. So I decided to break it down into seven points and possible reasons:

1. The monster represents what the world calls “undesirable,” but what we can actually see.

• Many monstrous characters are rejected because of their appearance, yet they possess a sensitivity that no one else sees. This resonates deeply with women who have loved insecure, sensitive, misunderstood, or damaged men. We are drawn to the idea of ​​seeing beauty where others do not.

2. The monster loves without social games. It loves from the depths of its being. 

• This was something I noticed a lot, and it was the fact that many times the "monster" tends to have more decency and humanity than the humans themselves. The humans in the stories have ego, pride, presumption, masks, expectations. The monster often loves like someone who has never been loved, loves with hunger, with purity, with a visceral impulse, loves like someone touching the sun for the first time.

3. The monster does NOT demand perfection.

• The monster is not idealized as a decorative object. It simply seeks presence, affection, and warmth. It accepts the strange, the different, and the emotionally complex. Many women who have been idealized find solace in a love that is not based on a fantasy about them.

4. The monster embodies the desire to heal and be healed.

• It is someone broken who didn't choose to be that way. Many of us have been broken too, and seeing a monster love is seeing that even the incomplete have the right to feel, to love, and to be loved. And that's not toxic; it's profoundly human.

5. In Frankenstein, specifically, “the monster” is childlike in his vulnerability.

• The novel makes it clear that he wasn't born a monster. Rejection led him to become one; his goodness is corrupted by loneliness, not by evil. It's like loving a poet trapped in an impossible body.

6. Monster romances express the female desire for an intense, deep, and faithful love.

• The monsters in fiction are devoted. They don't trade you for anyone, they don't deceive you, they don't play games with you. They choose you with an almost religious fervor. (By the way, I have a blog post about religion as a metaphor for love, if you'd like to read it, hehe). 

7. It's a metaphor for love that sees beyond appearances. 

• The monster is what happens when love doesn't enter through the eyes, but through compassion, empathy, the soul, emotional connection. That's why it's so powerful.

If you found this topic interesting, I recommend the video essay by YouTuber Adore Rodríguez titled "¿Por qué las mujeres se enamoran de monstruos y los hombres no?" It delves deeply into the subject, and thanks to her video, I was able to understand it much better. The video is in Spanish, but it has English subtitles. I recommend it if you found this interesting and want to explore it further.