{ What are Soul Suckers?}

  These individuals are easy to compare to a leech. There are bad for you and will constantly bring you down. They likely hate to see positive things come your way, usually in the form of jealousy. However, sometimes it's not that easy to notice that they are a soul sucker.  Let's talk about these kinds of people. They are super draining emotionally. Sometimes they can even be a job, but in this case, that's not what I'm not referring to. Have you ever had a friend or someone in your life who you know is bad for you, but struggle to stay away? You care about this person and see past their flaws, but sometimes they intentionally hurt you, but like the good person/friend you are, you forgive them, but you remain hurt by them. However, not in all cases is it intentional, and it's them expressing how they really feel, but not knowing the effect they are having on their loved ones.

  I've recently read an article I reside with in a capsity. When identifying a soul sucker, they brought up a victim complex. As humans, I believe we are all a little selfish and don't always look at the full picture of things. Some may, and I congratulate you for doing so because not all are capable of doing so. However, having this sometimes makes us think everything is against us. Sometimes it's a person vs person deal, and you are in fact the problem; you are the soul sucker. You feel so miserable with yourself, you begin taking it out on others, and these "others" could be people you care for. Sometimes seeing others doing better than us can cause jealousy, even if you guys are close and you wish them the best because you love them, you wish it was you, and that jealousy festers up, and eventually you begin being passive-aggressive. Sometimes you're so miserable within yourself, you don't even notice the effect you're having on your loved ones. And as we spoke about victim complex, if someone were to address a concern or problem, you'll be straight to depend on every action of yours because you can't be wrong. You're a great person, and they are wrong for "attacking" you when reality, it was out of concern and your well-being. 

    Sometimes you love someone a lot, and all you can do is hope they will change their ways or notice their actions drain and upset you. People tell you to steer away, but you stay, hoping and wishing for the person you have such a great connection with to come back, but sometimes they are gone for a while or even forever. This is when you realize you need to let go, even when you wish you didn't have to. It's for the best, and it only hurts you staying in this; you know you deserve to be treated better, but something still aches.

Over time, you begin to realize you are now free and you're doing better than ever before. Sometimes when you're involved with those kinds of people, you become one of them too. Hurt people hurt people. Losing that toxic person is like realizing all your negative experiences and starting over. You don't cry for hours on end, weeks, and months, wishing anymore. You don't beg them to treat you the way you deserve. You feel better now and have found new people who respect you and make you feel good in your skin. However, sometimes these people come back. You may think it's over, but once they lose their control over you and your emotions, and see you doing well, it bothers them, jealous. If you experienced this in any sort of way, don't they always come back when you're doing well in life? Not because they wish to reunite and become friends again, but they are jealous, and their goal is to destroy that happiness and recapture the control they once had on you. If they aren't doing well, neither can you. If they're not happy, you can't. 

 When you're in the middle of healing, you're still quite vulnerable, and that's why they still try to make their advances. Whatever you do, don't let them. Regardless of how hard it may be. Don't let them. You deserve better than be treated the way you were/have been. Let go of them.