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my mom and I were fighting and she just went quiet, stared into my eyes and said "everyone who says progress over winning is just faking it because they have achieved what they wanted and or they don't want to achieve anything! even if there's a more hardworking person out there, if they don't win, they'll be called a loser and if there's a talented person who has not done much but wins, they'll be put up on a pedestal. if the class topper fails, he's still a failure and if the loser kid gets A grade, he's the winner. it's all about winning. it's all about who's first and never about who worked hard because ppl don't see behind the scenes."
and now I don't know which ideology to follow. progress over perfection or striving for being the best.
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miseraria
considering the state of our education system, i hate to say this but... really, no one cares about progress.
there's a guy who i used to know back in 10th and that clanker (i say clanker because he was a total snob) scored 99.96% in 10th. he's attempting JEE and i'm pretty sure bro's gonna crack it and get into an IIT university easy. i don't know about his progress, his schedule, his study pattern or anything, but in the end, it's always your achievements that speak louder than the effort you put into achieving it in the first place. (and this guy was unfairly good at everything bruh, he was a good artist and used to play football or something, idk. HOW DID HE DO IT??? NO FUCKING CLUE)
your mom's right because that's the society we live in. objectively, progress is always better than perfection, but subjectively, through the hyper-competitive lens of the state of our education system, progress doesn't mean shit. this is honestly why i have been so fucking depressed this entire year because ugh. i don't want to study like this. i want to love what i'm doing, i don't want to be shoehorned into this bullshit but. alas!
we need to get good grades!
(sorry if i'm being pessimistic! i just had to get this out there)
i'm so glad I have someone is a sufferer of the same society I was brought up in and the comments reflect the different ideologies. in India, in the end it's all about the end result. it's sucks ik. and no, i get you. every bright child, every optimistic ends up being the opposite after years of seeing what's happening. I got 95.4% is 10th and my mom was the saddest out of everyone who congratulated me.
we're just stuck in a rat race of which we didn't even want to be a part of. everyone is pushed to do things they don't want to or is being brainwashed into it. in the end, it's what the person becomes (how much they earn) upon which the respect they get is decided. honestly, it's really sad. but we need to survive, especially our generation.
by miss.surmai; ; Report
HOLY SHIT I ALSO GOT 95.4% IN 10TH I THINK WE MAY BE TWINS FR????
oh but yeah i totally get you about the bright child thingy. it's always the one's who are the most passionate about things who get their spirit broken by the system we're a slave to. and relatives don't care if you're happy, they only care about your bank balance! haha, we have such a good support system!!
we do need to survive, yes BUT HOW THE FUCK ARE WE EXPECTED TO DO THAT???? WHEN LITERALLY EVERYTHING AROUND US SUCKS ASS OH MY GOD the whole ai boom (i fucking HATE gen ai), the constant wars, inflation, regression, hypercapitalistic consumerism... i can go on. why's the world shit when it's finally our time to get out there ahhhh
by miseraria; ; Report
we maybe twins at this point, broski.
there's so many kids out there who wanted to be artists, writers or anything else but, they end up become something else completely. it's not even about passion but simply about how there's not even enough scope because everyone is running after a few selective, stable jobs. reminds me of a statement I read 'everyone is an artist until the rent is due'.
it's so hard to get through life. i'm scared to be an adult lol. we daily see news of issues and only issues. no solution. ppl trying to find solutions are getting jailed. it's crazy out there. everyone's thinking of doing 2-3 jobs at the same time, afraid any one job could get them dropped off.
we'll get through, I hope. we'll survive I think.
by miss.surmai; ; Report
you're right about the passion and scope thing. it's crazy because in our parents' time, they had scope for whatever they were passionate about, but their parents and society was like, uhm, ENGINEER!! DOCTOR!! IT!!! and now, even if our parents will support us in an artistic field, it doesn't matter because there's no scope! everyone's an artist until the rent is due, indeed.
i'm honestly so scared too because i turn 18 this july and. god, i'm terrified. i don't know how i'm going to survive but hope springs eternal or whatever.
we have to get through this. we have to. and we will!
by miseraria; ; Report
i'll be turning 18 this may and it's is 4 months. I don't even want to think about it but when 2 am thoughts hit and make me question my sanity, it's inevitable.
by miss.surmai; ; Report
ugh, i get you. it SUCKS but again, what can we even do about it? best we can hope for right now is for trump to fucking die and a recession to reset everything.
by miseraria; ; Report
truly truly! but things are still going to be shitty for a long time
by miss.surmai; ; Report
yeah :( let it end within our lifetime atleast
by miseraria; ; Report
Dirty Machine
fuh both. be yourselves. do what you WANT to do.
TRUE 🙌🏻
by miss.surmai; ; Report
Joey
It is absolutely progress over perfection. That top scorer could get into a huge uni and be below average. The most successful people in the world are competing against eachother but the most successful person is competing against their self. My point is you can compare yourself to those around you and try your best to beat them but it’s no more effective than comparing to yourself, and eventually you will be better than those around you but if you stop there you will fall behind. The idea of perfection is impossible, any case where you are achieving it is a misunderstanding. Progression all the way
so in the end, it's about waking up everyday and trying to be better than what you were yesterday?
(you have great wisdom though. loved your opinion)
by miss.surmai; ; Report
exactly.
by Dirty Machine; ; Report