Being Genderfluid and dealing with criticism

What is wrong with some people? 

I experience transphobia almost every day as a person who identifies as genderfluid. It took a lot for me to even consider coming out in the first place; it was fine when I was only out to a handful of people, but now that my gender identity is public across all online social platforms and discussed in real life social settings, I have been getting harassed about it regularly. 

Now, I am an understanding person and I am always willing to hear peoples opinions, perspectives, and beliefs because it helps me understand the world around me and is honestly quite fascinating to me. So, when I get asked question such as "how is it possible to be more than one gender?" and "when/how did you find out?" I am usually very open about my experiences and like to share my perspective so that I can educate and help others out to the best of my ability and will gladly let them explain their reasoning as to why they have a difference of opinion. 

I honestly love hearing other peoples views and why they think certain ways; not just surrounding gender, but also religion, politics, etc. So, those type of questions that I mentioned earlier do not phase me (and if you have questions, I am more than happy to answer!)

But, when it's blunt transphobia and a lack of wanting to understand me or even consider me as a person? Blocked immediately — and if you're thinking, "but you can't block someone IRL, what do you do instead?" my answer is that I don't often get transphobic comments to my face but rather say it behind my back, where as people online can hide behind a screen and say whatever they desire to me without consequence, so if someone were to say something transphobic to me IRL, I would honestly just freeze up and sob because I'm a sensitive little thing who doesn't like confrontation. 

Since becoming public about my gender identity and having my pronouns in my bio across platforms, I have been encountering many people who don't view me as what I am — a human being who wants to be treated with respect, just like everyone else — but rather as something to laugh at and abuse. 

Here is a list of all the things that have been said/happened to me relating to my gender identity in just the past 2 months:

• my P.E teacher split the class into "girls VS boys" to do a Lego building competition and I cried. (I wasn't completely out of the closet yet and I really wanted to join the boys team but I didn't want complicate things)
• multiple strangers have asked me "are you a woman or a man? I don't swing that way, so this wont work out if you're a man" (it wouldn't have worked out anyway coz I don't want you???)
• when I was in a toxic relationship with a straight man, he told me "I view you as a woman" and I stayed, knowing that he didn't accept me for who I was. (should've known how that was gonna end poorly)
• that same boyfriend had a friend who making transphobic statements on a live stream, so I told my boyfriend that I wasn't comfortable with it and that it annoyed me, to which he said "I agree with what [NAME] is saying." so I stood my ground and told him that he was in a relationship with a genderfluid person and that he cannot change who I am or pretend that I am just a woman when I'm not. He didn't like that, so he responded with a simple "yeah, we need to break up." After that, he changed his bio that used to say "taken by Cinnamon" to now having it say "Cinnamon is a cheater" (how fun)
• when I came out to a family member, they responded with "okay, why do I care? Is this another phase?" (this one hurt because it was someone close to me saying it)
• people online just constantly asking "but what's in your pants?"
• a friend who was introducing me to someone else started by saying "she's a they/them" (this one would've been funny if he wasn't doing it in a transphobic way)
• many people have asked "so, if you're everything, why are you upset that I use she/her for you?" (this one is honestly a valid question, but it's not the fact that you're using wrong pronouns, it's the fact that you aren't using other pronouns like he/him or they/them. I have those pronouns so that people use them for, they aren't just for looks and it's invalidating when I never get called by them)

overall, I've had some not very happy experiences with people because of my gender and find it hard to build connections and relationships with others due to it. I don't understand why its so hard to give a little decency and respect these days.