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Allow me to complain a little. The idea of thirteen year olds making accounts here and acting unwise immediately upon pulling up makes me giggle.
I remember being 12 years old on the internet and back then you did everything in your power to not let anyone know that you were under the age of 16.
So now, seeing kids not only proudly proclaim their age (which is, by the way, incredibly unsafe) but also pulling up on a website that's meant to be an homage to the early 2000's with things like...a "dni list". Like I'm laughing. I'm sitting here clutching my stomach wiping tears rolling on the floor.
I never saw a "dni list" prior to 2020. And also, whats the point on a website like this? "I you're xyz I won't accept the friend request" also know as, not accepting friend fequests from people you don't vibe with. Is this not a common occurance and does it really require a dni list?
Also, kids, do not put your age all over your page if you're under 17. Have we gone insane?
Idk, maybe I'm too old, but also, I'm not even old enough to have had a myspace account. So maybe I'm not too old at all and you're crazy.
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sally_1sz-dumbbXD
As a minor on this app, I understand. BUT do tell me, what is so wrong about a DNI list, I completely understand that you are not used to them but they are important to show ppl who they do not like/ want to interact with/ friend
i am entirely used to them, i have a dni somewhere on my twitter profile, but the point is, on a website like this, whre there is no feed and you can't really interact with someone (private messages and bulletin comments) unless you're friends...just. have the dni list in your heart? if you say "18+ dni" it makes it obvious that you're a child and susceptible to being preyed on
by Jackie; ; Report
It's basically a list that is a big sign to other people that if you are one of these people, harass me. But said people in the list probably wouldn't care about it anyway, let alone talk with you.
At the end of the day, do whatever you want.
by ✮⋆˙ Lysandros; ; Report
✮⋆˙ Lysandros
They do it because they believe it makes people avoid them. I think. Well, said people probably wouldn't bother picking with them anyway. In my opinion there are many things to keep to oneself, because it is private information, and it's rather bad that kids don't know it as common sense.
There's always the block option for when you find someone to be uncomfortable.
exactly. like, bad people don't read dni lists and go "oh my bd ill go them"
by Jackie; ; Report
Literally!
by ✮⋆˙ Lysandros; ; Report
Harelegs
This is why I dislike this site, it's full of children, people with band kid humor, 2000s internet larpers, and people that admit way too many personal things about them.
My theory is that after all of those "Spacehey is dead" blogs burning into everyone's brain this site just got chronically online now, except with a side of superiority complex because "atleast I'm not wasting my time on tiktok unlike those posers!!!"
Okay I'm unsolicitedly ranting at this point, but I think this site would be healthier if everyone took 3 month breaks more often.
there is also a fault in your perspective which is, unfollow these people. friend normaler people. i haven't seen many people like this, and if i do - i turn around and pretend i didnt. i think we collectivey forgot the point of websites, which is to have fun and relax, not allow strangers to piss you off. set yourself free
by Jackie; ; Report
viki
I totally agree, like what happened to not sharing your real age (or any kind of personal information for that mather) and being cautious online.
But as a gen z myself who grew up like this it's totally normal and not considered a "big deal" since a lot of parents dont know what their kids are doing online. Besides. on other social medias like Tiktok or Instagram teens tend to post when its their birthday so its normolized to not be catios about your age.
On those social medias (and even snapchats at times) it's also easier to tell if somone could be a creep compared to facebook or Space hey. Beacuse of that I tottaly get the consern.
millenial parents forgot what the internet is and dont tell their kids to be carefull online, and its really sad
by Jackie; ; Report
angel 💗
not to sound like mr obvious but kids are WAYYY too comfortable on the internet these days like what makes u think posting ur face, age, specific location etc publicly is a good idea. and don’t even get me started on the oversharing aspect. i relate to both sides of the situation (the “dni lists” and the anonymous lurking) because i’m 19. to be frank alot of spacehey users just try to treat it like another twitter/instagram instead of something completely different which is to be expected, but it does beg the question if they truly want to leave their comfort zone and “live like in the 2000s”. overall it’s just heartbreaking to see so many children ruined by the internet. i have had unrestricted access since middle school and even tho it hasnt affected me that much, things could have turned out way, way, WAY worse. seen it happen over and over again
it sounds silly, because it has definitwly affected you more than you realize, but truth is, at least you are self aware. these kids do the most impossible things online and then think its not going to impact their life in any way lmao like ok, you live and you learn
i've been on twitter sunce i was 13 and it genuinely ruined my sense of privacy and completely skewed my idea of oversharing and peer to peer communication
by Jackie; ; Report
im gonna sound like an unc but the stuff that goes on on xitter tiktok and discord servers is scary
by angel 💗; ; Report
Camille
Hard agree
Cyberstxr.exe<3
Won’t make it even more hard to find friends when u have a dni list? “Oh noooo I can’t be friends with this person cause they’re *blank* yrs old”. I have a multitude of friends who are all different ages and we get along fine. Also isn’t putting ur age as minor a double-edged sword? Older users will avoid u and pedos will come swarming in like moths to light.
Also srry for the bad grammar
by Cyberstxr.exe<3; ; Report
yuuup, its silly imo
by Jackie; ; Report
🪲☮𝕽𝖔𝖈ħ𝖊𝖑𝖑𝖊 ☮🪲
While I agree, I also think it's better they don't pretend to be much older than they are. When I was younger (I'm talking 12/11), on YouTube, I had a channel that had around 4k subscribers, and I was getting a decent amount of views per video. Highest being 200k, others 180k, 80k,90k, obviously not every video was getting views like that, so others like a couple thousand, and my lowest being like 500. For reference, by the age of 12, I was making money off content (Google AdSense). My parents were aware of my account and Discord with like 200 members. My age was out there for the reminder that I was a minor. With that being said, I met a lot of other content creators similar in age or way older, and grown adults with whom I'd communicate with but not as much as it wasn't appropriate, as I was not even a teenager at the time. Within that time, I met a lot of people who lied and claimed to be much older than they were, and they would online date much older people. Obviously, it would come out that they were underage/lied. However, they got into these relationships claiming to be the same age or older than them.
I will only talk about one of them, for example. As little kids do, they like to draw attention to themselves and especially when unregulated on the internet. This individual was 9 years old, actually. She was in a lot of drama at the time (for the record, other kids, but yk), and each time there would be a problem, she would freak out and go on a "break". It never lasted long, but I recall the beginning of it all was when she made another account claiming to be 17 and the older sister to herself. Even at my age, I knew it was her, but for some reason, people much older than I at the time couldn't tell? The original purpose was to defend her sister (herself/main yt account) in the drama she somehow would get herself dragged into. A lot of the people she spoke to were older than her, including me. At some point, she begins online dating with her main account and a fake sibling account. The thing is, people weren't aware of her actual age on her main. I was aware cause I could pick it up based on how she would speak, and I received selfies from her when we would communicate through Discord. She would date people much older than her, and it went on for months til her family became aware of the unsafe things she was doing, and she was gone for years. Me this individual, and I did talk once when she became 14, as she came across my YouTube again and reached out to me personally, and we spoke about it. She is definitely doing better than before and is thankful.
Obviously, I only mentioned a small sliver of my experience as a child on the internet publicly, and then someone I knew who was taken advantage of when they pretended to be something they weren't. My point was that I think lying about your age is also very dangerous and can get you in trouble. I don't think it should be encouraged to lie. I think the true problem is parents giving their children unlimited screentime and access to the internet, and not protecting their children from posting things they'll regret in the future or talking to individuals who would have a huge effect on their lives. Not doubting anything you've been through personally, but I believe it's just as risky to lie. While I think the "dni list" is semi-corny, I think it's good to know they know better to not interact with certain people/things. We need parents to pay attention to their children rather than being neglectful. We need parents going through socials and such, making sure what their child is doing is safe. We need parents to stop shoving iPads in front of their kids' faces to distract them because they don't want to raise their kids. Just maybe if they did stop, these kids could learn to read and do math. Definitely acknowledged, children today are much further behind academically. I guess I've kinda swerved off topic about child safety, but the point is that a big problem could be fixed if parents just stepped in, or limited internet usage.
As I got older and came across things that have been posted that risked their safety or whatnot (including on spacehey, unfortunately), I will report it and hope for the best. AS we are only outsiders and can't do more than that.
of course lying about age is bad, i didn't think i have to say it.
i remember i was in some groupchat or other when i was 18, said groupchat being nsfw and 18+ only, and after months of sending inappropriate texts and pictures we found out one of the members was actually 13. could've landed us all on some kind of list
my point is exactly that. you should not be allowed on the internet as a kid, adult users should start making fun of kids online again, it should be something yoiu want to hide / something so shameful that it makes you leave those adult spaces alltogether. because kids nowadays not onky lurk in adult spaces online, they come in guns blazing, announce that they're 13 and to "adults dni" and attempt to become part of the space, while at the same time yelling at the confunded adults that they're being unsafe and invading their sfw space
of course, spacehey is not one of those spaces, but i'm part of some fandoms that are not welcoming to minors and yet, instead of quietly lurking, they announce tghemselves loud and clear, daring anybody to say anything beofre they start a shit storm of "how dare you even interact with me, let alone tell me where i'm allowed to be"
the point is: shame. when i was 12, i knew where i didn't belong. i knew that pretending to be 18 was unsafe, but i also knew that i would get kicked out if i made it known that i was 12, so i didn't "pretend to be 18", 18 was just the answer i gave "in case anyone asked" and then never brought it up again
nowadays, not only do kids openly say their age in adult spaces, they act as if they should be welcomed and celebrated in said spaces
by Jackie; ; Report
against_the_world
I think it is so other younger people would interact with them and not the older ones? I believe this could be a case. Some have "adults dni" or "over age 15 dni". Or they are even younger and 13 is a big age for them...
I am more concerned how for example on the instagram they use full names. At least in my country there are internet safety programs for schools, and every year we got like at least one, but most people I know share their private information on the net. And also, I am concerned that primary schoolers have unrestricted internet, and when I told their parents, that it isn't a smartest idea, I was ignored.
that's my point, by putting "over 15 dni" they're letting the whole internet know that they're like 12, its so unsafe T-T back in my day we used to just not ever talk about our age on the internet and assume everyone was a creep, just to be safe
by Jackie; ; Report
Anya
And they are also sharing pictures of them here? I saw too many 'photo dumps' of teenagers with their friends, or wearing a SCHOOL UNIFORM and posting photos. Nothing wrong with that except the fact it's extremely unsafe, hello? but of course, i don't blame it on the actual teenagers but on their parents for not monitoring them properly.
its so worrying that parents just don't teach kids proper online safety anymore
by Jackie; ; Report
Daybreaker
I was 18 in 2005 and I'm still 18 in 2025 (I lied about my age for porn and now I'm too lazy to scroll back to my birth year for porn /hj). But nah, I was also thinking earlier about how I feel sort of fish out of water because I'm still at least trying to be vague about my age as just a general safety thing. I've told minors here that they really dont need to be telling me where they live and then they say it anyway. Please stop, no one needs to know that info, no one needs to know shit, *especially* publicly and towards strangers. It is not a bad thing to be slow and steady with what you reveal to others online, because people online can be *anyone*.
It's seriously so worrying how modern social media platforms have conditioned children to just give up all their personal info completely willingly to strangers online, with no regard at all for said strangers' age. I'm very transparent about being in my 20s and yet children still run to tell me their age, address and entire birth chart like it's nothing
by Jackie; ; Report
snowy_forest_emo
agreed on the dni shit. i'm not exactly sure what about it that sits wrong with me, but it irks me immensely, it comes off as so childish and naive. of fucking course you dont want predators and fascists interacting with you, like, what? and other things like no conservatives no pro-shippers (wtf) etc, can easily be discovered on ur main profile.
i sometimes befriend people online who i disagree with on a lot of topics. i'd rather have a diverse friends list with all kinds of ages and types of backgrounds- and it's online so who cares about disagreements, it's just a screen- than a small echo chamber of overly sensitive ppl within a two year age gap from eachother
man, i agree entirely. the only "dni" i have are very young kids, like 13/14, because i'm a teacher and it would feel so weird to be online "friends" with kids younger than my students TT but otherwise, there is something so obviously "newgen" about a dni list, something gullible and entitled, as if we aren't sharing this online space with everyone we come into contact with. i can understand it on websites with no block button (*cough* twitter), but here? it reads a little ridiculous and ... tone deaf? like, why are we bringing 2025 onto the website that is, more or less, myspace??
by Jackie; ; Report
CHAIN
dni lists are from way before 2020. i was seeing them in 2014/2015. pretty sure they originated on tumblr. i think they're stupid, personally, but whatever. more useful is just a list of things you do or don't support, so people know what to expect from you, and know if you're going to clash or not.
man i'm glad i wasn't seeing them back then, i really don't like the whole thing, especially when its like "[literal criminal category] dni" like omg no shot? also do these people think genuinely bad people read dni lists? also i hate whe it goes "dni if you're problematic" or "basic dni" what does that mean lmao it makes me giggle
by Jackie; ; Report
Lumi⭑.ᐟ
Not to mention that DNI lists simply don't work. I always see something like "pedos dni!" in younger user's lists. Like, seriously? Do they really think a predator will be like "ah shit my bad" and leave? Internet safety is so dead.
haha, exactly. i roll my eyes every time i see "p3d0s dni" (they can't even spell it because they're so used to tiktok censorship).
by CHAIN; ; Report
lmao yeah, it's so comical i'd assume it was satire if i wasn't so used to kids on twitter
by Jackie; ; Report
To make it funnier, I don't think tiktok even bans someone for using the word pedophile. I've seen others use words that are also heavily censored by kids and their accounts are fine. For some reason, they put the censorship on themselves and now think every space on the internet works like that.
by Lumi⭑.ᐟ; ; Report
the kids aren't alright... sigh.
by CHAIN; ; Report
i always said proper words back when i had tiktok and i never had my comments deleted unless i was swearing hard, these kids enter into echo chambers and go genuinely psychotic
by Jackie; ; Report
GOAT
one thing to remember is that we all inhabit this space and have to make the most of it
that bein said, there will still be unsavory ppl that come and go - it's sadly inevitable
so ppl exercisin a bit of common sense should be a fundamental golden rule
ofc that extends to everyone, not just kids latching onto whatever is the cool new thing
:3
generally, i only care enough to think about it in passing. but there is a weird clash between a twitter-esque dni list and spacehey, the website that looks like myspace. i guess i was expecting more of a myspace etiquette, too, though at this point, in a world that is so entirely anti-child, where else are they supposed to go?
by Jackie; ; Report
is it not easier said than done when all their friends are inside on the computer? small towns suffer so badly from this too, where kids just dont have anywhere to hang out anymore because everything is online
by Jackie; ; Report
sure, but the lack of third places has been a genuine issue all over the world since at least 2020, i recommend you look into it, we saw the impact it had during lockdown and it only keeps getting worse
by Jackie; ; Report
zoya
LOL, i remember being 14 and pretending i was 19 on tumblr. or just being mysterious and never saying my age. i wouldn't even say i was a minor
i vividly remember being 12 and pretending to be 17 on omegle, i'd never ever even think to tell anyone my real ago lol, kids nowadays think they're owed something on the internet, but we were taught to be extra careful
by Jackie; ; Report