blatant homophobia in people who claim to be "alternative"

i’ve noticed a pattern, specifically among people from my school/area, who claim to be “alternative” but are actually just… blatantly homophobic. these are people who call themselves allies, or even queer themselves (and yes, i do think queer people can be homophobic... i’ll get into that), yet they constantly diminish and insult the very people they claim to support.

what really gets to me is how predictable it is. when they dislike someone, or they’re arguing with someone who happens to be queer(specifically gay men, from what i’ve seen), they always, and i mean always, go straight for attacking their sexuality. it hasn’t happened to me personally, but it’s happened to my friends, again mostly gay men. i don’t know if they have some weird double standard or if they just think it’s funny, but it makes me so angry. you claim to be “alternative,” yet when you’re in a situation where you could say literally anything to defend yourself, your first instinct is to attack someone’s sexuality?

and if you dare confront them about it, the ones who are queer always fall back on that excuse. like… so?????? i don’t care if you say you’re bisexual or pansexual or whatever; if you’re going out of your way to call a gay guy a faggot or make fun of him for “gooning to yaoi” (??????? so immature… and that’s a direct quote), you’re being homophobic. sorry!!!

some of these people will even bend over backwards to make excuses for others who do the same thing. like, someone can say “oh he’s not 100% straight” as if that magically cancels out what he said. okay? and he still called someone a faggot because he’s immature and can’t handle conflict like a normal human being. none of these people can.

edit: this also applies to how these same people talk about trans people in these situations. i’m not (close) friends with anyone who’s trans or under the trans umbrella (as far as i know), and i haven’t personally seen it happen firsthand (from the specific people i'm talking about); but honestly? i’m willing to bet they wouldn’t hesitate for a second to say some messed up shit about trans people too.